My partner and I are both looking to change career paths. I have been offered a position in another state. She is looking for a position in the same state, but as well as New York. My job would start soon, meaning I would have to move without her and live alone in the new state for at least 6 months. I could do the long term thing, but whether she has a new position anywhere is up in the air. I don't want to lose this great opportunity but I love my partner and don't want to lose her.
2007-11-12 06:08:10 · 7 answers · asked by Charles M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should probably mention that we are equally educated and ambitious. So, being a stay at home "wife" (we aren't technically married) is not an option.
2007-11-12 06:30:51 · update #1
How does she feel? Are you both commited to doing the long distance thing? You both have to be on board with it 100% in order for it to work. How is the marriage? Can it survive with distance like that? Because it's hard on even the best of marriages! Your career is very important, but your marriage should take first priority. Make sure no matter what you decide that you both are truly on board with it and not just telling each other you are for the sake of each other's happiness. REALLY talk it out, and if it turns out she can't handle it, you might want to postpone your change in career and wait until the time is right for both of you. It's not just about you anymore.
2007-11-12 06:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what's most inspiring. Keep in mind how you'll feel 15 years down the line. Will you look back and wonder why you didn't take the risk and go for the move? Will you look back and wish you had stayed to be with your partner?
In life's "fork in the road" decisions, I think it's best to go w/ your heart. Besides, your partner may change her mind or something new could come up.
2007-11-12 14:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a great job opportunity that would benefit you in the long run your partner should understand and be there with you all the way. Remember relationships come and go but your career is hard to start and keep going in this crazy world. What is important to you?
2007-11-12 14:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Babe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have the ask the question, then you don't really love her. The job is obviously more important to you.
And if you think I'm wrong, then spend some time imagining you've been forced into one choice or the other. In which scenario are you more happy or more regretful?
2007-11-12 14:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Andy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then make a choice and do not look back.
I know it sucks, either way you feel like you will lose something, but forget about that. Think about what you will gain by making each choice, and choose what you want the most.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 14:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just take her with you she can find a job later or be a stay at home wife
2007-11-12 14:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by Shana T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only money. Which will make you happier, her or the job?
2007-11-12 15:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by C>/ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋