Is it worth the wait?
2007-11-12 05:51:28 · 49 answers · asked by linda 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
its an unrealistic expectation to have of people
2007-11-12 05:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
It all depends? Are you really ready for sex? Sex is not just an "act" ... there are emotions attached to it. If you have sex with someone you don't love or they don't love you, you could be setting yourself up for a lot of heartbreak ... guilt, anger (what if they never call you again), low self esteem (what if they tell everybody you're lose), etc. Also, keep in mind that not everyone is honest ... they may tell you they've only been with one or two people, when, in fact, they've been with twenty or more people. What if, after the chase, they just toss you aside ... the game is over and they won ... you're just another notch on their bedpost. And although most health professionals tell you to practice safe sex, condoms are not 100%, and they don't protect against all STDs (I forget whether it's genital warts or herpes ... condoms don't offer any protection at all ... so ask your doctor), which is also a lifelong condition.
So, yes, I believe abstinance is a good choice. I believe it is worth the wait ... either until you're married or have been with someone a substantial amount of time (say, maybe a year or longer) so that you know them very well and you, literally, trust them with your life. Virginity is a special thing, and if you're not careful, you can hand it over to a jerk, especially when you're young and innocent.
2007-11-12 06:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Patti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was abstinent until 21 and i think if i were to break up with my bf now I could go a long time being abstinent. I don't think it is that hard, I think people just are used to indulging in whatever they want at the time whether it is food, sex, drugs alcohol or whatever.
2007-11-12 05:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by NorCal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abstinence makes you a stronger person because u have to over come the temptation, but if u can't that's fine too. Just make sure it's worth it.
2007-11-12 05:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by bunnie <3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do think it is worth it to wait until you truly love someone, and when that someone returns your love and feels the same way you do. I wouldn't go as far as saying to wait until marriage. But I do not agree with people who have sex just to have sex. If two people truly love each other, then it's okay and will make sex a much more enjoyable experience. This way you won't regret what you did the next day.
2007-11-12 05:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by dg2003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that people don't have to wait until marriage, but they can at least wait until they are mature (emotionally, mentally and physically) enough to deal with the results of sex.
Children need to be taught not only abstinence, but self control and how to use it because without self control you can't have abstinence.
2007-11-12 05:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Wanda 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really does depend on the person alone. It is not good or bad, It's a commitment that can be a source of strength for some, and unrealistic for others. The individual is the only one that can determine it's worth.
2007-11-12 05:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its worth it. My longest drought was 3 years. I didn't want a relationship and wanted to focus more on completing my college education, my kids and just being with myself. The time flew and I still can't believe I went 3 whole years but its good to know that I can go the distance. Thats ALL history now (smile)
2007-11-12 05:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you mean no sex before marriage, then i don't agree. i don't believe that once married some heavenly cloud comes over you and your partner, making it ok to have sex, while it wasn't before. plus, in order to avoid marriage problems you must know your partner really well, and that includes his/her sexual habits, performance etc.
if you mean like, abstinence from any other reasons than marriage, i can't comment for the people who practice it, but i couldn't do it. i do not think you should deny a natural part of youselves. we were born sexual, why inhibit that?
Another edit: that is IF sexual abstinence is what you meant in your question.
2007-11-12 06:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by chilly silver girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all,if you want to be abstinent thats your choice,i dont think that schools should only preach abstinence and shove it down everyones throat.
i personally think that its good to experience sex before youre married as long as youre safe.sex is wonderful and very important.if you do wait you may end up with someone who you arent compatable with sexually.people say as long as youre in love its good......so not true.its good to have someone who knows how to move.ive been in relationships where i wasnt satisfied with the sexual part and ive left,now im married to a man who knows how to please me.good luck
2007-11-12 06:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by fishefood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abstinence makes perfect.
No wait, that's "practice".
Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder.
Oh, that's "absence".
Abstinence makes your brain bigger. That could be true I suppose. All those lonely nights studying when you could be sc***ing.
2007-11-12 05:58:02 · answer #11 · answered by TAP 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋