Baby Name question and miscarriage?

Question

Last year I had a miscarriage and my husband and I had already named our son Andrew since we knew it was a boy. I am pregant again and wondering what your thoughts are naming the baby the same name if its a boy?

Answer 1

I think it's entirely up to you.

I don't think I would do it, personally, because that name would always "belong" in my heart to the child who was lost. I would also be afraid that Andrew #2 would feel like he was expected to be a replacement for Andrew #1.

However, if you won't have these feelings, then I believe you should name your child what you want. I also like what a previous poster suggested of using Andrew as your next child's middle name.

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Answer 2

That's really a question only you can figure out for yourself. How far along were you when you miscarried? For me, I miscarried at 12 1/2 weeks and I was extremely attached to the pregnancy and I suffered depression for almost a full year after the miscariage. I don't think I could have named the future baby what I was planning on naming the baby I lost. Again though, that is how I felt.

Maybe you feel that naming this baby the same as the baby you lost is like honoring the misscarried baby......I'm not sure what your thoughts are in this area. But I would say that if you and your husband are comfortable with it, that is all that matters. Good luck.

PS...Andrew is my husbands name and my sons middle name

Answer 3

In the 1800s, in some families it was a tradition that if a woman had a miscarriage or the baby died young the next baby would have the same name. If you like the name Andrew, you should use that name for your child.

In our family, we would say Andrew really wants to come down from Heaven and be a part of your family!

Answer 4

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, I had a miscarriage too... very painful both physically and mentally. To answer your question, if both of you like the name Andrew, you should stay with it. Unless, it would be too painful, knowing that is the name you chose for the son you lost. But, it is really up to the both of you to chose the name you want for your child. Congratulations on that baby! Good luck to both of you :o)

Answer 5

That is a question only you and your hubby can answer. Are you comfortable giving the name Andrew to your new son? If so then go for it, it would be a nice way to include the son you lost; but if you think you would be uncomfortable or that the name would make you too sad thinking of your lost son, then find a new name for this baby.

Good Luck

Answer 6

I don't think it would be very nice..That first child was yours, even though it didn't make it into the world..Taking away the name you gave it and giving it to your second child wouldn't be fair to either of them. Give your child a second name. Using Andrew as a middle name would be a nice way of honoring the child you lost..but not taking his name away entirely.

Answer 7

It depends on you. You could name the baby andrew in memory but maybe that name is too special. Its all up to you. Congrats!

Answer 8

i would use Andrew as a middle name.

Names i like are

James Andrew

Channing Andrew (call him Chad)

Phil Andrew

Shawn Andrew

Answer 9

In the olden days, it was a common practice to name a female child after her mother if the mother died in child birth. It is common to name children after dead family members. Talk it over with your husband.

Answer 10

this is extremely unusual because of the fact she lost the 1st one. I nevertheless like the same call i replaced into going to call my son if he replaced right into a woman and that i think of i visit call my next youngster that call if I also have a woman. Thats diverse nonetheless.