My baby will soon be three weeks old, and I think he is already spoiled. I have fallen asleep with him in my arms a few times late at night because I was just too tired to sit up with him, and now, it's like he won't even sleep in his bedside bassinet because he thinks he is supposed to sleep in my arms. As soon as I lay him down in is bassinet, it's like he realizes that he is not in my arms anymore, and starts crying, and now, it' s not only happening at night, it's happening during the day also. Any suggestions on how I can break my baby out of this habit?
2007-11-12 05:22:57 · 16 answers · asked by BRIDGETTE R 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
To those who suggestd swaddling, and waitig until he fall asleep, I do swaddle him, and I have waited until is is fully asleep, but as soon as I lay him down he will wake back up in no less than a few minutes after realizing he is not in my arms.
2007-11-12 05:40:10 · update #1
I also wanted to add that I am not in any way trying to make it seem like I don't want to hold my child! I just do not want to start something that will wind up being a bad habit in the long run. I love holding him, I just don't want him to develop a habit and when I go back to work, my babysitter has problems with him because of my holding him while sleeping.
2007-11-12 05:44:22 · update #2
Your arms are warm and any other sleep surface is cool. That is why he is waking up.
It is impossible to spoil an infant under 3 months old. Warm the bassinet with heated towels before you put him in and make sure he is swaddled and he will stay in it. Get a womb sounds bear and have that on as well.
My doctors both OB and pediatrician said that it is my job to hold my baby for the first month and it doesn't spoil them. They were right, neither of my 2 (16 & 3) are spoiled or needed to be held all the time as babies and that is basically all I did when they were under a month old.
It made my husband do household chores because I was holding the baby and it helped with breastfeeding.
Good luck!
2007-11-12 05:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no such thing as a spoiled 3 week old.....he may have become used to hearing the sound of your heart or the warmth and cuddles but that's not being spoiled. Right now your child is learning to trust the world and you accomplish that by meeting all his needs. I don't recommend falling asleep with a baby in your arms because an accident can happen (falling, smothering etc.....) so put him back in the bedside bassinet and comfort him when he cries but always put him back in the bassinet after progressively shortening his comfort time in your arms. He'll get used to it and still feel like he can trust the world. Get him on a schedule and stick to it. Don't try to nap him while you are food shopping. Consistency is the key.
2007-11-12 05:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by miatalise12560 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's impossible to spoil a baby. My suggestion is wait until the baby is fully asleep before trying to lay him in his bassinet. You're his comfort, his whole world...it's a good thing that he's wanting to be near you. Don't worry so much. There's really no way for you to break newborns of habits.
Try swaddling him before he goes to sleep and then lay him down so he's not getting cold as soon as he lays down and such.
2007-11-12 05:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The baby is not spoiled, he is a newborn. They take comfort in your warmth, your heartbeat, and your physical presence.
Try a Womb Sounds bear in his crib or bassinet. It is a teddy bear that makes a heart beat and swooshing sound - very comforting to newborns. You can pick them up for around $20 at Walmart or online through Amazon.com.
Also try swaddling him in a blanket you have had against your body (for your smell). They take comfort in the secure wrap of a swaddle and from your scent.
2007-11-12 05:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your baby just likes the security of your touch. Remember he was inside you for 9 months. Try wrapping him up securely in a receiving blanket with his arms down to his side. This is called swaddling. It will make him feel secure. So with any luck this will help you. Good luck and congrat's.
2007-11-12 05:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through! I slept with my parents so I let my baby sleep with me. I thought it was harmless and loving. I now realize it is not good! It is hard but you have to put that precious baby down! As a mother this is the beginning of things that will be hard to do but in their best intrest. Try swaddling your baby in a light weight receiving blanket. Lay the blanket out on your bed in a diamnond shape. Fold the top corner down. Lay the baby on his stomach on the blanket (head just sticking out of the now straight side) with the babies arms at his side wrap the left side around the baby and then the right side around to the front, making him feel all tucked in and secure. Be sure to not use a heavy blanket because he will get to hot. Lay the baby on it's side and put a rolled blanket along their back. Also pat him on his bottom or back so that he can fall back to sleep. Be patient...if that sweet baby cries just walk away.
2007-11-12 05:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by brandi from texas 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
they like patterns and consistency, so it is possible that he has gotten used to that way of falling asleep. you should start a new bedtime pattern here is what i do:
first pick a time at night to start this...
my bedtime pattern:
first make the house more dark, and quiet
9:00 pm warm bath
9:30 bedtime feeding (i bottle feed so he gets a warm bottle)
after he is done eating put him down (swaddled in a blanket) in his bassinet, at first you might have to stay with your hand on him so he knows you are there...but when he gets used to it he will start to fall asleep.
when you wake at night to feed him, after he is finished eating put him back in the bassinet the same way each time....they like patterns a lot like i said and they will get used to anything, you just have to keep consistent.
2007-11-12 05:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He'll sleep on his own eventually, you just have to learn to put up with the crying for a while.
On the other hand, he's two weeks old. Hold him as much as you can. In about 11 or 12 years, you won't get to any more.
2007-11-12 05:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
dude im having the saaaame problem...hahaha...what ive been doing is just trying to kep him awake for as long as possible...and then when he gets cranky and i know hes really tired i feed him then put him in his bassinet and then put on his little moblie and a little nightlight thats attached to the bassinet....its working so far...the only problem is timing his sleep...and i held my first one in my arms all the time and he got used to it too...its not "spoiling" but they do get used to it and its not good...my two year old just learned to sleep in his own bed 3 months ago..so...trust me try to get him to sleep in his own bed or your be sleeping with him forever !! hahaha good luck
2007-11-12 05:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by exxie6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋