how long do you stay in a group when no friendships have been built yet?

Question

I'm in a group since January that does disaster relief essentially and I enjoy being in the group... I enjoy helping others but there are other groups that help others.. but I'm growing frustrated that all the relationships are only acquaintence level and nothing further has developed from it. maybe I haven't given it enough time?

I guess in general I don't follow conversations that well in a group - it works better for me in groups like this one where we are DOING something, rather than sitting in a circle trying to figure out what to say at the right time and all.. , and I think people don't really give me a chance, and if anyone were to try to get to know me one on one they normally find me to be a good person to be friends with, it's just that doesn't happen easily for me.
for whatever reason.

Answer 1

Nearly a YEAR is plenty of time.. Perhaps these guys think of this as a job and nothing more. Co-workers.
Maybe you could ask one or two of these acquaintances to hang out outside of doing what you guys do as a group. That way you have the opportunity to talk one-on-one with them instead of feeling pressure to talk about what so-n-so wants to talk about and not getting personal. If there is at least one person there you feel could be a really good friend, I'd say ask 'em to go grab a beer (for example). Strike up a conversation. See what you might have in common and then go from there. Make it a habit to hang out every weekend or so. I understand it's hard to make friends within a large group of people, I'm the same way. I would probably stick with one or two of those people as being good friends, especially if you're around them quite a bit during the day, every day..

Answer 2

That is just a classic situation for most of us, isn't it? :)

Well... I understand how hard it is, been there, done that.

I think you can work on finding on something that you know or you do not already know but would like to know. You know... something that interest you. Just so that when that person comes into blabbering all about their life you wouldn't accidentally yawn. *wink :d

And then! Try to be confident and brave, intrigue them with questions. But not a sensitive one please... Perhaps a more intellectual one, if you like intellectual talk. Make it a light talk, and you never know who are you meeting with there :)

Just put happy thoughts and smile!

I hope this helps :)

Answer 3

For me it was a very hard time, they make fun of me and hurt me but if u want to be with a friend you just want to do something cool for them like help them and help with their homework and
like that and if u dont want to be their friend u just want to stop talking to them and when they walk in front of u and say hi ask ing u stuff for like 5 min u sould just walk away and when they gets in trouble and he get cought u just laught at him or like chuckle and shake ur head left and right for 1 time and i did this to my friend and it does work we been friend for 5 years then the last 2 weeks he did something very very very stupid and i felt like i don't want to be his friend so i start doing that to him and we stop being friends for 2 weeks

Answer 4

I know how hard it is to find true good friends in life... You have heard of the old Murphy's law - don't go searching for it, you let it find you!

Just be who you are and continue to be a good friends to others. Don't go searching for a best friend, let one come to you and just be casually about it.

The same idea applies to dating too. You don't go looking for love, let it find you! Best of luck!