2007-11-12 04:35:53 · 38 answers · asked by jillyary 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you want to be a parent then you should have your baby. There's no guaranttee you will be able to get pregant again, so this is your oppertunity. Your boyfriend isn't ready, don't force him, have your baby and let him know he will be welcome in the child's life if and when he is ready.
You can raise this baby without him, don't think you can't. Help is all around you if you want it. Speak to a counselor at you local prenatal clinic and get some support.
Good luck and God bless you.
2007-11-12 04:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by miggyboo2 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was 1st pregnant when i was 20 with my current BF. We weren't ready at the time. I was young and our relationship was pretty rocky so it resulted in abortion. Even though I was hesitant in the first place to go through with it, I did it and I regreted it every day of my life. I'm 24 now and 5 weeks pregnant (while using birth control). I would never ever get an abortion again, and even though this pregnancy was unplanned, I'm having the baby. We've been dating 5 years now but he isn't happy about it and wanted me to get another abortion. I told him I couldn't do that. I'm planning on having the baby and leaving the decision up to him to be a father (he's 30 by the way). Hopefully he'll come around in time, but if not, I'm okay with that too! I have a great support team including family and friends. Time to grow up!!!
2007-11-12 15:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by cap_grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should consider abortion. Your baby was conceive in love, right? And you don't have any serious health conditions that would mean you'd die if you continued in the pregnancy, right? And you were well aware of the fact that sex makes babies when you freely entered into a sexual relationship with your boyfriend, right?
When you freely choose to do the thing that makes babies within a loving relationship, why would you destroy the baby that comes from it?
If you're both REALLY not ready, then you should put the baby up for adoption. But you two might be a lot more ready than you think you are.
2007-11-12 05:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hey! Lover! has the right idea, do you want the baby? Cause it you want that baby then keep it, but don't bring it into the world if it isn't wanted, there are enough children in this world that aren't wanted. More importantly are YOU ready for the responsibility of the baby? If your boyfriend isn't ready that is fine, you have the option to raise the baby on your own or with the support of friends and family. Talk to your friends and family about it - talking on here to strangers ends up with a lot of personal beliefs about abortion and the ethics of it. If you do not want the baby and are not ready for the baby then abort because there is the chance that you will become resentful of it reeking havoc on your body by carrying it to full term for adoption.
2007-11-12 04:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should, by no means, have an abortion just because your boyfriend is not "ready" for it. It's your body and your decision. Also, an abortion isn't an easy way out- you will have to deal with that grief your whole life so don't think it will just make everything back to normal or alright. Don't let your boyfriend convince you to do something you don't want to do. Don't do anything you will regret later in life. Also, you are 29 years old so I'm sure you will be able to care for the child properly and if your boyfriend decides not to stick around, then he will still pay child support so it's not like you'll be alone.
2007-11-12 04:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Madison 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is really only up to you, but you should really talk to your boyfriend and ask him why he thinks his not ready. Hearing that you are going to have a baby is scary to some guys. If you have a abortion the hurt of doing it will be with you for a while, but if you no you and your boyfriend are just not ready to take care of a baby well then good on you for admitting that. Lots of girls bring babies in to the world and they can't handle the care they have to give to there baby. I think it takes a strong person to see they are not ready for a baby and have a abortion. I'm sure your family and friends will be there to help and support you. If you wer to have the baby then adopt it out i think that would be to hurt no you. Having the baby in your belly for 40 weeks feeling the first time it kicks and hearing the heart beat you get a real bond up. So i really think you would have to be so strong to do that. i really hope that this helps you. I have been in your shoes before so make sure you really think things throw and don't do it alone be with your family. Take care.
2007-11-13 07:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to ask yourself is if YOU want this Child!!!! Here is something else to think about....this is what a child feels if you were to get an abortion..(which I feel is just morally wrong)
Month One
Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.
Month Two
Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.
Month Three
You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.
Month Four
Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.
Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?
Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!
Month Seven
Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?
Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.
2007-11-12 05:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your boyfriend is not ready for it, then he is not ready for it. Let him choose whether to be a part of this baby's life or not. The baby is now your responsibility. If you even think you want to keep this baby, then you should. Sometimes boyfriend/girlfriend relationships do not last through problems like this. However, your relationship with your child is a life long one, and that should be taken into consideration. This is a child inside of you. You have to do what you have to do. But you can be a good mother. All you really need to do is love and take care of that baby as best you can. If nothing else, there is always adoption. Please consider this option. Good luck.
2007-11-12 04:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 and almost 2 months pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he doesnt want the baby either. Well, at first he said he wasn't ready and didnt want to be held back etc, but now he said he is just scared that he will get attached and then I will lose the baby. Sometimes it takes time for people to get used to the idea. You have to really do what is right for you and not base it on his wants. You are going to get a lot of negative comments on here in regards to abortion so be prepared for that, but you have to do what is right for you. When I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant and he said he didnt want it I told him that was his decision. I didnt yell and scream or anything. I am ecstatic about being pregnant and whether or not my boyfriend is in my life I have made the decision to have this baby and do the best I can do with the love and support of my family, his family and our friends.
Just really think about it before you do something you may regret, but in the end its really your decision.
Good luck, keep us posted on what you decide to do.
2007-11-12 04:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen when we are in love ( women) we are blind, we dont see when a man is not good for us, you say he is not ready, but he was ready to have sex with you, for that of course was ready, always with a decision in this case have sex, comes a responsability after something unexpected, like pregnancy, you are old enough to make your own decisions, it is a baby, your baby, are you ready to face a responsability like this, are you going to be able to give all your protection, love and care to that new life? make babies is free, but cost a lot to raise them , and I am not talking about money, iam talking about if you are mentally , emotionally ready, you are asking us if you should consider an abortion, answer your self that question, be strong, what worth more to keep a man, that he wont be there when you need it, or be strong and stand up and defend your child? he could sugar his words and tell you that one day he will be ready, but the decision is yours, that happened to me 7 years ago, and now, my son is my reason to smile, now I am married with a great man that loves us with all his heart, I had the same thought , and i decided to keep my baby, last month I miscarriage, and it hurted so bad because, I remembered that i didnt want to have my baby 7 years ago, be a mother is a blessing, think about it,
now I am pregnant again and I celebrate every second to have this baby inside of me.
2007-11-12 04:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋