........or will you untimately have to decide between the two?
2007-11-12 04:25:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In a perfect world I would love to say yes you can, but when my ex I divorced it was impossible for our mutual friends to stay friends with both. They saw what she was doing to me and my son and the lies she was saying about me and couldn't sit back and watch.
I guess if the two parties breaking up could keep the drama out of it then it could be possible, but when lies and drama come in to play the friends get drug in the middle. I hated to see it happen to mine and I hate when it happens to me.
2007-11-12 04:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard but not impossible. Just set some ground rules with them both. It is easier if it wasn't a messy split. My BFF and her hubby split and are now friends that are in other relationships now. I had no trouble at all staying close to both of them. They are both lovely people, but not at all compatible. I wish they both would have spared themselves from getting married before they knew each other well enough. If was messy I'd have to have chosen my BFF.
2007-11-12 04:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by firefly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can stay friends with both.Just let each know that you don't want them to ask you to choose and that just because they are not together you have to stop being friends with them.Of course you won't be able to hang out with the two of them at the same time and of course you wouldn't want to talk them into going back together
2007-11-12 04:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Barbara is correct. There is no reason why you can't stay best friends with both of them. You can listen to what they say about each other, but don't repeat it to the other one. Youu are setting yourself up to not be friends with either one.After a time, you can ask them not to talk abouut it and tell them they need to move on.
2007-11-12 04:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what Barbara and Nek said. Also, if they are true friends, they'll never attempt to make you "choose" between them. Don't talk about one with the other, and don't let them talk about each other with you. You'll definitely need to set some parameters to make sure the friendships stay running smoothly; trust, as with any type of relationship, will be vital.
2007-11-12 04:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. It is difficult if not impossible to end up getting caught between them and feeling forced to take sides or just to step back from the whole thing for awhile.
You can try, but they will probably both end up trying to use you to deliver messages back and forth or spy on the other one. Only way to definitively avoid this situation is to clearly choose one, or withdraw from both.
2007-11-12 04:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to take sides. They are your friends. Their divorce may affect you somehow but it's got nothing to do with you. Just be civil with each other instead of being at each others necks and name calling and bickering. If you can't get along then leave each other the heck alone.
2007-11-12 05:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by oldschoolelf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In MOST cases... you meet someones "other" because you're friends with one of them... you can certainly become friends with the other... but in a divorce situation... i would say you most likely stay friends with the one you were friends with from the beginning... and maintain an acquaintance with the other....of course... there are always exceptions... but that's my experience....
2007-11-12 04:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still stay friends with both of them but refuse to talk about the other one with them.
2007-11-12 04:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by Peacenik 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have lost friends to divorce because THEY usually are the ones who choose to decide whether or not to keep investing in our friendship.
2007-11-12 04:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋