Do they honestly think that a person won't get offended by thenm saying and doing offensive things just by saying "no offense intended" or "I mean no offense"? If they mean no offense to be intended then why do they say or do offensive things? Isn't that a bit hypocritical?
2007-11-12 04:24:15 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You have hit the nail right on the head ! In cases like that, the person fully intends on being offensive in order to make a point. If they say ' no offense intended ', they must know that what they are about to say is not very nice, and saying that is supposed to atone for it ? Bull !!
2007-11-12 04:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by gambleb54 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Saying "No Offense" is shorthand for "What I'm going to say you may find offensive, but it is something I have to say since I respect you enough to speak to you honestly even if some of those things I say may hurt your feelings." Now whether or not the person truly means "No Offense" is another question.
2016-04-03 09:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hypocritical? No! Honest? Yes. If you live by the philosophy "Never say anything behind someones back that you're not willing to say to their face" then you will sometimes say something that you think may or may not hurt somebodys feelings. And then you say "no offense intended" to make it clear that its only your opinion and you're being honest. Personally if I ask for advice I want an honest opinion. If the opinion is unwanted then I would say " Thank you, but I really wasn't asking your opinion" I know humans, we're so confusing, right?
2007-11-12 04:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by babiesmama212 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They think they are doing you a favor by telling you something that they think you may not know.
For example, someone with really bad breath or body oder. For those around them, it is a major distraction and turn off and it causes those people to not want to be around that person. A friend or co-worker might assume the person has no idea his breath or body oder is so bad and tells him so he can do something about it, thus improving the over all quality of his (and everyone else's) life. If the person truly did not know he has a problem he will be grateful and will do something about it. However, if the person already KNOWS about the problem, he will be insulted as he does not want to be reminded he has a problem he has not taken care of.
If you find people keep telling you something like that quite a bit, then you probably are aware of the problem and have not done anything about it. The person telling you is trying to improve things and you should do something about what they say.
No offense.
2007-11-12 04:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is pretty hypocritical and offensive. Not only do they not mean their apology but they lie on top of that because they felt a sense of guilt and try to cover up their so called faux pas by giving you an insincere apology to boot. The best way to be not offensive is to think before you speak and be in the person's shoes that you claim are not trying to be offensive and try to sense how they would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. A lot of the time it is thoughtlessness or selfishness and sometimes downright demoniacally cruel.,
2007-11-12 04:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dave aka Spider Monkey 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't say mean or offensive things , I just express my views and I say no offense because I know that somebody will probably not take it quite lightly , in other words he or she will misunderstand my true intentions due to their own reasons and circumstances or due to the brutal truth which otherwise will sound offensive
But I must say that I've seen people who are somewhat hypocritical , therefore I've come to the conclusion that it varies to the person , circumstance , intentions or views
2007-11-12 05:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They want to be offensive without taking responsibility for being offensive. Coward's game.
I HAVE seen it used when a person didn't know the other person very well and was afraid that what they said MIGHT be taken in the wrong light... but usually it's just passive-aggressive.
2014-03-12 15:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were to use that, I would say it so the person doesn't think I'm trying to be a jerk about what I'm saying. It is probably a statement that could be taken very negatively and possibly personally offensive to the person. By saying "no offense," it let's the person know you're not saying the statement with a malicious intent.
2007-11-12 04:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by johnny_zone 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If a true friend of yours was being asked your opinion, and you may not be happy with the opinion that friend gives you, they would say to you "I don't mean to offend you with what i am about to say" but.... would you get mad? If so then you are not a true friend. a true friend will not always have positive feedback to give you. you must learn to accept critism as well. this is why people say "No offense intended" they do not want you to be upset with their remark.
2007-11-12 04:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes the only way to get a point across is to offend others. They don't mean to, it's just that they use the example to express their point. The following " I mean no offense" is a way to say sorry if it sounds unethical.
2007-11-12 04:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by Watching in Westminster 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋