Are independent women too independent for their own good?

Question

Are they the ones with remorse over being spouseless, childless, alone with the cat at home?

I don't mean to generalize but isn't there some truth you can not deny?

Answer 1

I think of myself as being an Independent women. I am able to take care of myself. I own my own company. I open my company with my own money. money I worked hard for. I still work hard in my own business. My hubby has his own job and is going through school. I had to be independent I had a very hard childhood . Then I married my hubby when he just got out of boot camp. He was in the Marines . I was along a lot. i had to find new ways do do things. I gave birth to both of our sons without him there. I am proud of myself.

So I would have to say no to your question. As you can see I have a husband of 9.5 years, and have two boys and a great career.

Answer 2

I think it depends on the woman. In some cases you may be right. I think I have met a couple of women who might fit your description. However, my elderly aunt is very independent, a widow who does not have remorse over not re-marrying -- She doesn't want a husband. She had no children by choice and never regretted it, and she lives completely alone without a cat and swears she prefers silence and her own company. She reads a lot, and occasionally like a nice visit. She is a happy, independent person. P.S. I've met a couple of men who fit you criteria, too.

Answer 3

Are independent men too independent for their own good? Are they the ones with remorse over being spouseless, childless, alone with the game on at home?

Was that a serious question? Like women are seriously at home crying because we can't get a man to love us or make babies we can pop out. You're funny.

Answer 4

Do you mean the same women who when surveyed are happier than married women?

I am independent- I have grown children, a 25 year marriege that has past, a GREAT CAREER that pays well, two cats, I have no remorse. For the past few months the gentleman I am involved with is overseas working. We are both very busy with our careers.

Answer 5

Not necessarily. The women who are "too independent" are that way because they chose to be. If a woman is a single, childless cat owner, there's every chance that she's as happy as any other woman. I'd much rather be that than a wife-mother.

Answer 6

For years I had a sales job where I took calls from all over the country. I would spend hours on the phone with each client over about a three week period. I collected all their personal information. My co-workers and myself all saw a undeniable trend of single women in the East coast. There are obviously single women all over the country, but nothing like there is in New York, Washington DC, Philly. Almost every woman from those cities was single. All they did was work. They were far more aggressive than any other market, and far more difficult to work with. As a matter of fact, there are rules of thumb on how to deal with all types of people. Old or young, rich or poor, men or women. There are sales guides about how to handle different people. Normally dealing with women from the East coast was like dealing with a man. I can see why they would have a hard time finding a mate. There is an undeniable link between "independence" and being alone. No doubt at all. For the most part, men want a feminine woman, not a masculine one.

Answer 7

Well, if their major life goals include a husband and children, spending their 20's and early 30's in a hyper-independent mode is not really good practice. Time alone does not make you any better at parenting or marriage. If a husband and kiddies are NOT part of their major life goals, well, they should feel free to "practice" living for themselves for the first 30 years of their lives.

It is quite un-PC to say, but younger women are going to be seen as more attractive as wives among family-oriented men. If children are never going to be an issue, no worries there. But the kind of guys who want to get married and have babies are looking at the ladies from about age 20-25, not ages 30-35. Waiting until then to even consider marriage leaves you standing on an empty train platform, realizing that all the "good trains" have already left the station.

Answer 8

Perhaps but it's not anyone's job to save them from themeselves.

Part of equality does involve leaving people alone to make their own decisions no matter what you personally think of them.

Ask yourself, would you ever ask a similar question about men being too (fill in the blank) for their own good?

Answer 9

It depends on what you define as being independent. I think it is a good thing to be self-sufficient and able to depend on yourself rather than NEEDING to depend on other people for everything. You have to be your own best friend before you can meet your best friend. It took me a long time to figure that out.

That being said, I also think a good couple complements each others' strengths and weaknesses.

Answer 10

It seems to be independent is to pay more money.**For example, only 9.3% of the couples' $14,200 monthly gross income goes for rent, compared with 23% of the single person's $7,500 monthly pay. The couple also pays less for food (5.6% vs. 8.3%), cable television (1% vs. 1.8%) and the telephone bill (1.2% vs. 2.8%). And auto insurers place married people in a lower risk class, saving them money on car insurance. **The married couple also gets some relief on both federal and Social Security taxes, thanks to the slightly lower tax rates associated with joint filing. They pay out a combined 29% of their salaries, compared with the 35% the single person pays.