Just found out I am pregnant - very scared and need advise?

Question

I am 32 yo and have been married for 5 months, my husband and I get along very well. Yesterday morning I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive (took 2) I am so scared, we have wanted kids but do not feel like we are ready. Since yesterday I have been crying non stop, so stressed out, and do not know what to do. I know people would kill to be in this position, I have always wanted kids and still do, but the feelings that are going through me are so overwhelming and I have never felt like this before in my life. I do not know what is wrong with me. Any help would be appriciated to help me out or sort anything out. Thanks so much in advance and god bless.

Thank you all for all of your applies, they all have made me feel better. I did tell my husband and he was happy. He supports me in anyway, he said he justs wants to see me happy. I guess I am freaked out about the "birth" caring for a baby. I am more like the person who has the nephews and nieces and LOVES them - not the typer of person who has a baby. (if that makes sense) My brother in law and sister in law just had their first baby about a week ago. Very unplanned, and they are so happy, I keep trying to look at them. I guess its just the hormones taking over, i have never felt this much stress and anxiety in my entire life. I go from one extreme to the next, thinking - ok, i guess i am ready - what if the baby is not normal because i was stressing, because i did have a few drinks before i found out...ect..... :o(

Answer 1

Have you told your husbend yet? If not you need to! You also need to stop stressing, its not good for the baby. Since you said you both have wanted kids, I sure you will be fine. Just sit down and talk it over and everything will work itself out.

Oh and by the way, congrats! It's time to find a doctor!

Answer 2

Don't worry, it will be ok!
LOTS of people don't feel ready, and you have a lot going for you, seeing as how you are in a good relationship and you aren't a "kid" anymore.You cna do this :)

First, find an OB-GYN and make an appointment.

Next, go to the bookstore and pick up a baby book or two. It will help you feel a LOT more prepared when you know what to expect, what you should and shouldn't be doing right now, etc. When you decide to tell others about the good news, talk a lot with other friends or family members who have kids and ask lots of questions.

Also, start thinking about your finances. You'll need to start saving now so you won't be overwhelmed financially as the due date draws near. Since this is your first baby there will be a lot of spending to do.

Answer 3

First of all, congratulations, although at this point you don't seem excited, more afraid than anything. I am not sure what you are afraid of; you are married and obviously at 32 plenty mature enough to handle it. Are you afraid of the pain you will go through, of the responsibility you will have? My advice is to pray for strength to get through the shock of finding out, and the patience to let God work His will in you and your husband's lives. I guarantee that within two or three months, you will be really excited about babies. By the way, it might help for you to visit the maternity ward and look at the precious innocent babies in there. If THAT doesn't thrill you, then something is not right. I'm 51 and want to bring everyone of them home with me every time I go. It's a blessed miracle. May God bless your sweet baby!

Answer 4

My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant forever, when we did, we were both very scared (and still are). It's a big deal and your hormones are haywire during pregnancy. That feeling is normal.

You need to discuss with your husband whether you will go ahead with the pregnancy or not. Discuss why you feel you are not ready and why you are ready. After discussing it rationally, it'll seem less scary.
You're married, happy, a good age and you do want children. I'm sure once the initial overwhelming feeling has calmed, you'll be really happy.

Life has a way of working itself out. Good luck.

Answer 5

Just look on the bright side: you're married, you're not a teenager, and you guys want kids. People very rarely feel like they are ready for a baby. It is a huge change, and it will change your life forever. But it's a positive change. Think about the fact that you don't have any problems conceiving. There are many couples who would love children that can't have them because they are infertile. I'm 19 and I definitely was NOT expecting to get pregnant, I still live with my parents (I'm getting married in Dec), and I'm still working AND going to school full time. I'm not financially stable, and it's going to be rough. But I'm determined to do it. Other people have been in way worse situations and they have done fine. With God's help I know that we will be just fine. I'm sure it's the same for you. Good luck and congrats---this is a GOOD thing!

Answer 6

Being new to this situation is indeed, very intimidating. I just had my daughter 10 weeks ago, and just took a test that came out positive. You are going thru intial shock. In a few days or maybe weeks, after it wears off you'll start feeling a new sensation....excitment! Your gonna be a MAMA!!! Yay! Nothing is wrong with you at all. Surging hormones are to blame. Just take it easy. Get some books on pregnancy and prepare! I promise you motherhood is the most rewarding, fufiling, frustrating thing a woman can ever go thru. Good Luck and God Bless you and your family!

Answer 7

Hiya hun, bless! I am not going to preach the 'should of used protection' rubbish, you are both adults and you are in a stable marriage and thats not what you want to hear? Your hormones are playing havoc with your emotions at the moment, I planned all 4 of my pregnancies and I still felt exactly how you feel, still did up until I had my first scan with baby number 4 who I am 12 weeks pregnant with! You need to sit down with your husband and tell him exactly how you feel and he needs to tell you how he feels, you love each other and hopefully will understand each others grievences. The other thing is, dont feel guilty about other people, this is you, its got sweet F.A to do with anybody else! Just remember, talk to each other, he doesnt know how you are feeling, hes not physic and neither are you!! I promise your feelings will change as your hormones settle down! It is a very scary time, av been there 4 times!! Sorry to go on!! But chin up chick and just remember, all that matters is you, hub and little peanut! Really hope av helped abit! Good luck sweetie. Loadsa love xx

Answer 8

I'm 22 almost 23 and im pregnant with my second child and I too was scared out of my mind..you might not have been ready to have a kid yet but I think God plans and does everything for a reason and he gave you a baby for a reason....it is very scary to thinkabout but just the thought of holding a new born in your arms should take all those fears you have away....

but by the way Good luck and congrads to you and your husband..
i really hope you see that haveing a baby is a miracle and you deserve it..

Answer 9

It's partially the hormones. If you have not yet told your dh I would do it asap. Sharing the news might take some pressure off of you. You are in this together and will be fine. After sharing the news make a plan. We had a scare about two years ago(shortly after we got married, we were only 24) and I freaked at first but after a couple weeks I got used to the idea and was sad to not be pregnant after all. We ended up ttc actively shortly after that.

People have babies every day and find a way to make it. Don't worry so much and get it off of your chest. His reaction(hopefully a good one) will make you feel better.

Answer 10

It's very scary when you first get pregnant, but your best bet will be to have a sit down conversation with your husband and map out a pregnancy plan. Believe me, once you start getting some positive feedback, you will begin to get excited. You may not be 100% ready right now, but when will you be? It's impossible to be fully ready, there's so many unknowns about being a parent.. just go for it. Congratulations!!