My partner says he wants to wait 5 years before we start trying for a baby. He is 30, and im 20.
I dont think i can wait that long, but have been told i might not ever concieve.
We dont use contraception, apart from withdrawal method.
He has also said if it happens then it happens.
Do you think he is wanting a family now, but its too scared to say because of my gynae problems?
2007-11-12 03:15:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know im young, and only 20 but i have lived a lot in my years!! So i understand but dont want to hear about my age.
Thanks Wolfy, what a great answer.
I am scared of talking to him about it though, i dont want him to feel like im pressurising him, or trying to ''trap'' him.
2007-11-12 03:29:04 · update #1
Sounds like he may be scared...because we all know that the withdrawal method doesn't work.
We had problems getting PG. It took else 7 years to concieve. I think you need to sit down with your partner and have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Ask him if he's afraid. then listen to what he says. Understand that starting a family is a huge deal. And with the fact that you may have problems only double the stress.
BTW- we started trying when I was 21.
Good luck...and remember...Listen.
-wolfy
2007-11-12 03:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard subject that only u and ur husband can sit down and talk about and ur not to young so dont think that i am 18 and 14 weeks pregnant and i have had to grow up fast so dont ever let any1 put u of because of ur age yea i think he may be scared but go have a chat with him tell him how u feel u never know the next question u may be posting is "does any1 have good baby names" good luck
2007-11-12 12:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think he just wants to wait. You are only 20...you have pleanty of time and pleanty of time to utilize the many fertility options out there available to you. Having a child is a big deal. He probably wants to be sure you and he are "made for each other" before bringing a child into the world.
2007-11-12 11:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Astarte 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very important subject and you need to sit down with him and really talk it out. Not communicating in a relationship will hurt you both.
2007-11-12 11:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋