kids at all thank god. when we were together it seemed like to me she didn't want to discipline her kids, spend time with her kids, or raise them. her mother raised her kids. i did my share & helped out but the kids wouldn't listen to me they would hit me & they never had a real bedtime. i told her of this & she said that they don't need a bedtime on the weekends. that's bs!! they need rules they're young. she would text other guys & say "they are just friends". the kids father is never around & when he is they both argue in front of the kids. they even told the kids infront of them that they never wanted to be apart of their lives & that they feel miserable with them around. that's awful.!! i left because i couldn't take it no more. it was took much. i swore that i would never date another girl w/ kids. i'm living w/ family now working 2 jobs getting my own place in another month. life is great!!! no stress. yesterday i get a call from my ex gf saying she's changed & wants me back.
2007-11-12 03:08:18 · 10 answers · asked by conan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she says that she is starting to care about her kids & that she wants to continue what we started that the guys she's texting are friends & nothing more. she told if i cared about her that i would give her a 2nd chance. my life is great the way it is. i don't know if i want to go back. i might be where i was. help me
9 minutes ago
life is great. i have my own cellphone, i'm geting my own place. i'm 27 so i'm really feeling great about my future as a whole. i really want to be happy i have no grudges against her its just i don't know if i'm willing to do it again. raising someone else's kids. i want my own kids ( if i have them at all). i feel energized. i don't have to worry about babysitting or children in general right now. so i have no reason to give all that up right now.
2007-11-12 03:08:41 · update #1
It sounds to me like she would say anything to get you back. Is she capable of such a radical change? Only you would know.
It also sounds to me like you don't really want to give up your great new life. So.......stick to your guns and tell her to find another "chump".
2007-11-12 03:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch her she's bad news. She is using you as a her fall back man when the other guys run out then you are there. She's not worth it. She's not just a bad mom but a bad person.
You should not judge other mom's by her example. I am a mom of two girls. I love them to death. They come first! Including their discipline. You can't let them run wild. You know this and I know this and most people know this. She does too but she doesn't care about her kids.
Oh and people can't change that quick so she's lying to you! Do not get sucked into her crap again! Some people are just crappy people. And it matters little if they have kids when you meet them or not. You may meet a girl (who has no children) and she's crap but you don't know yet and she has your kids and then you find out just how crappy she is. At least if the girl has kids you can judge for yourself how good a mom she is.
2007-11-12 03:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she bonded with her children she would behave differently. Most true mothers would lay down their lives for their children. You were in a bad situation with a "mother" who looked at her kids as a burden. That's so sad. I can't imagine how hard that was on you. You did the right thing by leaving. In the future you might meet a woman with children but if she really loves them you will find a much differenct situation. It won't be the pressure and expectations that this woman put on you. God bless.
2016-05-29 08:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably does miss you but she will go right back to how things were when you left. You would have to be able to unconditionally accept her for how she is in order for it to work. You will be better off moving on and starting over with someone new. You don't have to rule out women with children. Just learn more about the woman before moving in with her. That is a commitment in itself.
2007-11-12 03:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back. You have a clean slate now and can have or become anything that you would like. Your old girlfriend sounds like a mess and she probably in my opinion tried to get together with some of the guys that she had been texting and they wouldn't have her....settling on you. I wouldn't go back....you deserve much better.
2007-11-12 03:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her No. You don't 'have to go back just because she asked. I can pretty much guarantee things haven't changed with her. If she was a bad mother 2 months ago, she is still a bad mom. And if she says she is a good mom, just to get you back, that pretty much proves that point. No mother changes to a good mom for a man, she changes for her children.
Move on.
2007-11-12 03:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you got your own cellphone at 27? What is your question? You are happy and you moved on. Remain happy.
2007-11-12 03:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by Islander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U anwered ur own q buddy. Ur happy and thats what counts. If u dont want to go bak to that situation.... then dont.
2007-11-12 03:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has too much bagage. I would move on and not look back.
2007-11-12 03:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by libaki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT come back to her, U can do better...
Stop dating single mums...
2007-11-12 03:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Bubi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋