Since living together is so popular today, do women think marriage should be eliminated?

Question

This question is not for children just adults old enough to marry
also those who married and regret it
also for those who dont beleive in marriage . I told all my friends that marriage counts Im willing to hear im wron No problem I am also willing to hear im right too.

I appreciate everyones valuable comments and i hope there are many more..

secrets story reminds of a loving couple unmarried He left her something because of the love she shared with him. The estranged family suddenly came out of the blue and took everything all she was left with was grief. They told her, it doesnt matter if we dont love him as a family we still are family so we took every thing. I say marriage counts for more than obne reason, I womnder how children are affected if they are.

Answer 1

Its not called living together, its called shacking up! And its becoming a epidemic only because we have a society that is out of control and very disfunctional. We are raising children to think that marriage is a bad thing and that shacking up is acceptable, and this is why shack ups dont last, and marriages do, I know your thinking but why are their so many divorces? Its because we adults are raising our children and teaching them thru tv and the internet and music that its ok to walk out on a marriage, they are led to believe that marriage is not forever, and its ok to bail out on your spouse. Its awful, and no marriage will never be eliminated, what needs to be eliminated is shacking up! Wake up people, we as a society are raising our future kids to be deadbeat parents, were showing them its perfectly fine to walk out on your spouse and live together before marriage, and its ok to have 5 kids from 5 different mothers, or the other way around. 60 years ago this would have never been tolerated, maybe its time to go back to the way things used to be, its called rules for kids, parents try saying no to your children! set boundries, punish your kids when their bad! teach them right from wrong, it all starts in the home, so its time we adults take responsibility for our kids.

Answer 2

I am 30 years old and have never even lived with a guy. I have had some very serious long relationships and really have only had 4 serious boyfriends. The first 3, though each were longer than a year (the longest was 7 years), were all alcoholics. (My father is recovering so naturally I was drawn to addicts). I never lived with any of them I think because I knew deep down that it wouldn't work. My current bf is NOT an addict (hooray!) and he is really the first one I would move in with, if he asked of course. That said, I DO believe in marriage and I think I take it more seriously than others. I would LOVE to get married and have kids one day but I let my time limits go long ago.
Society now doesn't require marriage for anything really anymore so that may be why people don't think it counts for anything. Everyone is different. Some really believe in marriage and others don't want any part of it....I am one of the believers still. Personally I think the older you are when you get married the better off you'll be. To me, it does count still.

Answer 3

I believe it should be determined on an individual basis. After two marriages I'd like to say that I no longer believe in marriage. But never say never, that person may come along and change your mind one day. My guy said he didn't aspire to ever get married when we first met...he has since mentioned it a couple of times, both of which sent me running in fear.
I enjoyed being married, it eventually just became that I didn't enjoy who I was married to. It takes both people to make a marriage work and when both don't give in the marriage it fails. Its no different than it was in the relationship prior to marriage, its just that people think that they no longer have to work to keep the relationship going, well they are wrong.

Answer 4

well I am married 16yrs 3 kids I do not regret it at all...I do not think marriage should be eliminated..but to each is own...if some people do not feel like getting married then they shouldn't, I do not see anything wrong with living together if that's what both parties involved are alright with....here's the thing, people cheat married or not but if you can with stand living together in a committed relationship with out marriage vows than good for you........I just think its a matter of personal choice....my personal choice is marriage I cant imagine not being married to my husband.... in short I don not think you are right or wrong go with your gut not what others think....

Answer 5

Living together is only popular because we are the microwave-drive-through generation. We don't like to commit and we don't like to work hard in our relationships, so we prefer to live with a person to enjoy the benefits of marriage without the commitment. A roommate with benefits, if you will. We are paying a high price for our choice. Our children are growing up fatherless. Marriage is set up to protect women and children, to form a family bond, to carry pride in the family name, to protect it...... so marriage will not and should not be eliminated.

Answer 6

I dont agree with eliminating marriage. Marriage is an institute. Yeah its just a paper, however, once you are married you are bond to this person financial life. Just living together, doesnt guarantee you the voice you need when it comes to the deed of the house, his financial earnings, medical history/care. Yeah, you end up with his bad credit, but, if something was to happen to him, you could voice your opinion on it among his family.
I was living with this guy once for about a year, we werent engaged, but have had talks about marriage. He got sick, you know his family didnt allow me in the discussion room with his physican when discussing his medical condition. I knew they never like me and I was hurt, not by their act, but simply cos the person I love was dying and I wasnt allow to know any of it. Had we been married, they couldnt have decided to take him off life support, without me agreeing to it.

So marriage is important. Living together, should just be for right now, not for life.

Answer 7

I'm still old fashioned. I love the fact that I'm married and was able to pledge a committment with my husband vs. just living together and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. He and I never lived together before marriage. Also a true wedding ceremony is what women dream of their entire life. having a day to mark this union is a very special thing.

Answer 8

Marriage is a contractual agreement to work through things and count on each other to have a life together. Perhaps the concept of marriage should be taken more seriously - but there is no reason to eliminate it.

Answer 9

Marriage counts. You just want to make sure you marry for the right reasons.When I was younger, I married for some wrong reasons...to get out of the house and to have more money.So, now, I will take my time before marrying again. I take it serious, and I want it to last a lifetime.

Answer 10

I don't feel that living together is all that popular, rather the women are scraping the bottom of the barrel trying to find suitable husband material. I have six daughters and I cring when another one gets married as it is not like I am losing a daugher, I am gaining another meathead to feed.