i was seeing a girl and we stopped seeing each other cause she said she fancied a person she worked with (and knew it was stupid cause nothing would probably happen there)
she taught it was unfair on me to like me (she said) and be dating me ( 4 three months) but fancy someone else and she needed time to sort it out and would get in touch when she got over him
does this just sound like a kind way of dumping someone - even if she does fancy the person at work ?
and would you be able to get back with someone if she said come back to me after doing this ???
2007-11-12 02:23:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is playing with your head and if you get back with her after she decides she no longer fancies that other guy you'll deserve what you get from her.She is bad news for anyone that fancies her.
2007-11-12 14:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When relationship does not work out people should take time out, this is what she is asking , she also confide in you about her deepest possible secrete of heart. She did say she will sort it out and get in touch.
So it is up to you, to allow time and take it from there.
Finally answer to your this Q? "and would you be able to get back with someone if she said come back to me after doing this"??? is simple.
It should be up to you, I have no knowledge of the intensity of your relationship, so play it cool, make the most of the situation, allow time.
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2007-11-12 10:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, sounds to me like she was letting you down easy. She was tryin to break up without making herself or you feel too bad about it.
But even if she was being honest and she really may want you back in a while, do you really wanna get back with her knowing she may do this exact same thing all over again? And chances are, she would.... cause she basically just found someone she thought was more interesting, but she wants you there in case it doesn't work out, so she doesn't have to be alone later..... But when someone else interesting comes along.... she'll do the exact same thing. And YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT!
2007-11-12 10:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by hanginonyoureveryword 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an honest way to dump someone. It sucks that she likes someone else but at least she was honest. It also sounds to me like she is trying to keep you on the side as a back-up in case things don't work out with this other guy. I could not date someone that "had to get over" someone else. That's fine if she needs to deal with those feelings but I wouldn't stick around...who's to say she won't come back to you and then 6 months later find that she likes another guy again...you're either the one for her or not and it doesn't sound too promising.
2007-11-12 10:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's being honest with you. Would you have preferred she not be honest and be seeing you while she was infatuated with the other guy...probably not. She no doubt does like you or she wouldn't have dated you in the first place, but she doesn't want to lead you on if her affections turn elsewhere. If she wants to get back together once she gets past this other guy, I see no harm in trying. Just take your time if you do & make sure things are as they should be.
2007-11-12 10:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a way of saying:
I like you but I think I like someone else more.
But if it doesn't work out with him I'll come back to you.
Until I find something better again or give up and take you.
2007-11-12 10:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by old-softy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would never get back with someone that had me on a "reserve" list. Sounds like she is keeping her options open, not very fair to you is it?
2007-11-12 10:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt get back with anyone who had to stop the relationship you had together. remember when your married there is no " stop and wait for me" your on the ride together.. and she quite you so therefore you two as an object are broken . you can find someone who wont need to second guess their decision to be with you
2007-11-12 10:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by COULDbCRAZY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has no value for you thus whenever someone comes around she feels like she loves them more than you she will run off instantly to them, when she realizes the grass is not much greener she comes back. dump her a**
2007-11-12 10:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that she had the guts to tell you instead of lying to you about it but I wouldn't go back to her. If you do try to keep it casual until you know for sure that she's certain you're the one.
2007-11-12 11:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋