What would you do?

Question

your step dad tried it on with you,you told your mother and she did not believe you.
Your a 20 something year old female and have left home

Answer 1

i would go to the police and make a report about it and never go back, you dont have to live in a situation like that, the police will help you with somplace to stay

Answer 2

Excuse me? Do you mean tried to "get it on?" If so, yes. I had the same problem, although I was 16 when I tried to tell my mom. I ended up leaving home to go to school because it was a continuous thing. When I came back, I moved out. I didnt talk to her for a year and a half. It took me nearly 6 years to forgive her completely.

I would report it for sure. The situation with your mom though... if she doesnt want to see it, she wont. Thats just the breaks. You have to decide can you go on with your life knowing that your mom didnt want to face the truth.

My mom and I havent talked about it since and havent had a problem, then again, there's a lot more to the story than just that. I wish you the best. Its a hard feeling to deal with, but its not the end of the world. She has her reasons, my mom had hers and I had to understand that. I had to decide whether or not I was going to hate her forever because she couldnt handle it. I choose to give her my forgiveness. I'll keep you in my prayers

Answer 3

Set the creep up. Set up a video camera and put him in a situation where he will try it again (be sure you are not instigating any thing, then you will look guilty!!). When he does, you have it on tape!

Then show it to your mom!

There is no sense in going to the police. Unless he is stalking you he is not doing anything wrong. If you were under 18 then yes, tell the police. At your age of 20-something he is not breaking any laws.

Answer 4

I agree with Randy Mandy! My step dad pulled that stuff on me and my sister for years. I know Mama knew, but we kept it from her to more or less shield her. She had a lot of emotional problems anyway, to say the least. We were always uncomfortable being around him. When Mama died, he got WORSE! First my sister, then me. We broke connections with him, which we should have done YEARS ago. He's remarried to a gold-digger who has taken everything my sister & I were supposed to have, and moved to another state. After Mama died, he made it clear that he wasn't a step dad anymore since she was gone- like we were open game now. Just get away & stay away!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I noticed that some answers suggest going to the police.

In the U.S.A. the legal age to have consensual sex is age, 17 if not living at home. Age 18 no matter where you live.

Assuming that he is doing something illegal, then. Report it to the police.

If it is not illegal, then get away and never look back... neither to either of them, ever, before it's too late... and NEVER blame yourself for doing so.

Answer 6

now thats freaking gross,old horny man.why wouldnt mom believe you have you lied in the past.well if mom dosent believe you theres not much that you can do to make her believe unless you get hard evidence and catch him in the act.if he trys to get with you again i think i would get some pics or one of those mini recorders and keep it in your pocket so when he starts harrassing you ,you can click it on an record the whole conversation and show mom.i about gurantee if hes trying to get with his step daughter hes been cheating on mom with other women,i hope if this is true mom opens her eyes

Answer 7

i wouldn't keep in contact with my step dad anymore. maybe move somewhere where he wouldn't be able to find me.
keep telling my mom that there really was something wrong and if she still thought i was lying, stop talking to her until she reaizes you really are upset at something & maybe then she'd believe you.

I am sorry if you are in a situation like this :(
best of luck!!

Answer 8

Ditch them both. Tell your mother that she can talk to/see you again until she believes you. Until then stay away. After a little while, your mother might start to believe you if you follow through and stay away.

Answer 9

Get away and stay away. Unless there are younger stepchildren at home, in which case ask for help - NSPCC?
They respect anonymity I believe.
Sorry your mother didn't believe you. Maybe she just doesn't want to know.

Answer 10

I Would certainly make it clear that I was not impressed and that repetion of such behaviour would result in an imense amount of pain in a very sensative area for him. I would also let my mother know, if she did not belive me well thats her own stupid fault!