My ex husband and I have been split up for 4.5 years. We are talking about getting back together. He has 2 kids from a previous marriage... I admit I was not the best stepmother, I was 21 and had no experience with children at the time, and to top it off my ex husband was gone 8 months out of a year... His kids recently contacted me and want me to come back in their lives, but their mother doesn't and she let me know about it through a phone call...
Should I still try to work things out? I know I have changed for the better, I had a cancer scare that made me look at life totally different!!! and I apologized to them and they forgive me, but not their mother, I didn't beat them, so please don't be mean... What would you do in a situation like this? Go back? Or not....?
Please help :(
2007-11-12 01:32:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were not getting along anymore, he was gone so much and I felt very lonely, and when we purchased a bigger house... that's when all hell broke loose. He would come home in a bad mood, not wanting to do anything! We have talked about these issues and I do very much still love him. It's always been him. But his children contacted me! They made the move, not me :(
2007-11-12 01:49:33 · update #1
The ex-wife really has no say in it. If you and your ex hubby still love each other enough to get back together, and the kids are all for it, I say that's a green light. The ex needs to move on, get over it, whatever - but certainly don't let HER run your life!
2007-11-12 01:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on why you split up in the first place. Children need a stable environment so be careful not to come in and out of their lives at a whim. If you love him and want your family back together, go back. If you don't love him, move on.
2007-11-12 09:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you and your ex husband have come to agree to try getting back together...then you shouldn't worry about what the mother of his children think...apparently the children have forgiven you for what happened and want you back in their lives...I say go for it and wish you the best of luck....
2007-11-12 09:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes go back . Whats the problem besides the EX . Shes always going to be a problem . As long as there not together you can do what ever you want its your call
2007-11-12 09:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From how you phrased your question with all the good reasons to go back I think you want to do it.
So the only question I have is what is holding you back.
2007-11-12 11:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are lacking something at home if they contacted you. Talk to him and let him know.
Otherwise, step back if you can to see what happens.
2007-11-12 12:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by C>/ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to tell you. Go back.
2007-11-12 09:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ!!! 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋