i have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 yrs but still havnt told him some stuffs about my past like about some of the guys i have dated he has never asked about it but sometimes i feel like am betraying him and get scared about the fact that he will leave me if he finds out i really love him and have been totally faithful with him since i met him.i havnt done anything bad in my past but just didnt tell him that i have slept with someone else rather than my first boyfriend.does he need to know i know about his past and its worse than mine but it doesnt affect me.i hvnt discussed my past to anyone ever in my life so i dont know what to do.
2007-11-12 00:48:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he ever comes out and ask you about your past relationships, I wouldn't see why you couldn't tell him. But honestly, men don't like hearing about your past....especially who you have slept with.
If you feel uncomfortable about keeping the secret from him, then you need to tell him. I'm sure he isn't going to change his mind about you. You past is who you are today.
But really I see know reason to tell him.
2007-11-12 00:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't help him at all to have this information. If you didn't tell him you had another child somewhere (who might turn up 15 years from now), or a disease, or something like that - different story. But who you slept with in the past has no bearing on your relationship. On the other hand, if you are feeling very guilty and very wrong for not telling him then let him know. It's not big deal, he shouldn't care. I haven't told my husband about every partner I've had, we've been happily married for 12 years.
2007-11-12 01:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Janey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont go emotional n think all this lady u dont know u'll marry him or not n if u marry him what if he takes advantage of that males cant be trusted 4 that .well my mother told me that u should never just let men know ur loose ends after all no matter how much he loves u there will be a day when he will show that he is a man after all.but yes if u both r tooo close let him speak about his past first the c how much he tells u ..well u can just tell him the front lines now dont go so deep just can say i had a byfrnd blah but not so serious .and yes plz i will advise not to tell him about u sleepng with other coz u never know he will insist u to do that with him maintain ur respect lady men r men no matter what?hope this helped.
2007-11-12 01:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by hello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't share your past w/anyone who doesn't already know! I've been on the planet for a while, I've done a few things (as a young man) that would be embarrassing, some foolish stuff as an adult. And even some great things, (which would make me a bragger)! So just keep it to yourself! Everytime you tell someone something about yourself, you're giving that part of you away! Give too much = nothing left!! And remembe KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!
2007-11-12 01:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 6 years and my husband has never asked me how many partners i have been with or any questions about any of my past relationships and i have never asked him about his.
leave the past in the past and dont bring it up. there is no need to discuss your personal past with anyone. you have to keep some things to your self.
dont tell him.
i always go by the words from Rose (at the end when she's old) on the titanic movie when she says "a womans heart is a ocean of secrets"
2007-11-12 00:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by neverlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres no point in telling him anything unless he asks.
If he isnt concerned about it, then why r u?
Dont stir something up that isnt worth it. Just let it lie unless he asks. Like u said, u have nothing to hide, but why bring it up when he apparently doesnt care what your past holds?
2007-11-12 01:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so some distance as your sexual companions, I see no reason to tell the fact at this element. he would be injury and insulted which you lied formerly then, and his have confidence on your will in all probability bypass away. If I have been you, i might save my seize close on the subject of the sexual companions. as some distance with the aid of fact the detrimental issues you have carried out on your previous, there is incredibly no reason to convey them up in case you do not want to. Your significant other isn't your therapist or priest, and till you like to talk approximately those issues with him, then it rather is pointless to. as an occasion, in case you have carried out cocaine or something, do not convey it up. If he ever asks you, nonetheless, i does not lie from this element on. good success.
2016-09-29 02:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by cogliano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't advise it either. This is something that should have been discussed after you got to know each other., not 4yrs later. You may have heard the old saying- let sleeping dogs lie. Leave it alone unless He asks.
2007-11-12 01:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. As long as you're being honest with him and being faithful to him then don't worry. If you bring it up then it could cause tension or an arguement. Your past is your business... not anyone elses.
2007-11-12 01:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men would love to know about their wife's or girlfriend's past sexual experiences, but a few men are so insecure they can't deal with it. As an inquisitive sort of guy myself, I hate to have to say it, but you should go with your intuition. If you suspect he can't deal with it, it's better not to broach the subject.
2007-11-12 00:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋