I dated this guy for a lil over 3 yrs. It was a real ugly break up! Seeing him made me feel like him & I never missed a beat! Yet being wit him last nite I had my guard up totally! I cared about him a great deal and I feel like so much time has passed we've been a part for a lil over a year. Yet last nite all that I wanted to say 2 him prior to us ending he didn't allow me to say or get it off my chest! Lets just say it was both our faults but the communication could've been better with a better ending if he just listened! I feel like a different person now and he even looks different to me but I bought so much out in conversation that I felt I gave too much. Was it a bad power move being in his presence & I don't care how much he said he loved me, I'm sorry I just don't see it or believe it! I feel like he's the type to monitor his heart jus as I am, how do I get pass all that and really put faith and trust in his sincerity? Because prior to breaking up I just didn't feel the love!
2007-11-12 00:17:06 · 7 answers · asked by rita_hiemy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first you have to know what you want. Do you want closure? or do you want to torture this guy for not loving you when you wanted him to? If it is indeed closure you want you can get it. Write him a letter. In this letter tell him all of your feelings, including how you felt during and after the break-up. Now is a good time to write it cause he is open and willing to hear and accept what you're saying. Careful tho, make sure it is moving on that you want, cause if you want him back this will surely back fire and put you in the same position he left you in the first place. Good luck!
2007-11-12 04:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sheba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you HAVE to have closure... to me... you are giving another human being power over you. That person has something that you want... closure. To me, its over rated. Certainly its nice to feel as if you've said everything there is to say........... but in a break up situation what would the point be? Would you be trying to get back together? Why? If someone wants to end a relationship they will no matter what you have to say. Would you want someone back who you had to "talk" into it?
Okay.......... that being said.... nothing that you've written would seem to show that this is a healthy relationship. Healthy for you, that is.
Walk away.... you deserve a man who'll listen to you... who wants to hear from you... through both good times and bad.
Good luck...
2007-11-12 08:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the classic scenario where you are waiting for closure, when in fact you should be cretaing the closure yourself. By seeing him again you are denying yourself that closure - you should accept it won't work and not even try to be friends (as that would only fill a gap another man should be filling).
2007-11-12 08:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Paul M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem to have moved on already. keep moving and do not look back.
2007-11-12 08:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i COMPLETELY agree with what BABYGIRL... said! do u REALLY want closure or not? thats what u gotta decide...
2007-11-12 15:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mazey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it up! It's OVER!!!
2007-11-12 08:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you don't need a monator then good for you . done. . .
2007-11-12 08:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by vintagemale1951 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋