she was overly dramatica...to the point of verbal and physical abuse but when she was loving she was so loving but then she could turn off her emotions in a minute and hate you. one time too many she abused me and i fought back for once. then she said i was the abuser and left. i didn't hit her i just pushed her out of the kids room for being really verbally abusive to them. i couldn't tolerate it anymore. she was incredible in bed. So i ask you if she did all that to me, why do i miss her? i shouldn't but i do.
2007-11-10 23:28:52 · 11 answers · asked by surviving 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the question here is you miss her because she was good with you on bed, or basically you miss her because she was a lovely wife to you, who really took care of the needs of your children and did her duty of the wife.
If she was your dutiful wife then you should have gone to a psychiatrist by your self told the doctor about the circumstances of your wife of what she had gone through previously, so that he could suggest you what you should do, and after the doctors consultation your problems could have got solved, but even now its not too late if you feel you really miss her in all the ways, then bring her back home, convince her with your unconditional love saying that you miss her, and will be the best of husband in the world to her, after you have taken her in confidence, u go to the doctor and consult the doctor, see what the doctor advises you and do the same, i am sure you will have a happy married life again, all the best for your marriage life
2007-11-10 23:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by bridgetmaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong for missinng your wife, because if you didn't that would only mean that you never loved her. It's not that you hate her but you dislike the things she does. When women are abusive like this for the most part it's deriving from something in there past, but this is not something that you can fix. She will have to comfront these issues on her own. I would suggest seeking counseling or having a family intervention. Abuse is never the answer in no situation not to you or the kids and it's unhealthy for them to see, hear or be around.
2007-11-11 07:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by tlnay025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her and miss her, for the health and safety of the kids and you, you should miss her from afar. I am just glad that you took the matter at hand and dealt with it because so many spouses see it and do nothing for fear of what the abuser will do to them. The pain will lessen over time and you will eventually be able to move on. Just one day at a time is all you can do. Thank the Lord for opening your eyes and protecting the weak.
2007-11-11 07:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you spend time with someone day in and day out, you are going to miss them. Whether it is good or bad, but know this that time does heal all wounds. You'll look back and laugh at this time. Don't let those feelings cause you to keep from moving forward. No regrets, you didn't deserve to be treated badly. Soon thing or someone else will fill that place. That's the way life is.
2007-11-11 07:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Neenee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because now that some time has passed and you have come to realize that all the issues you thought were so terrible were actually quite trivial and maybe even normal. You both are at fault and you now realize it, question is does she realize it as well, and might possibley consider a sit down and maybe find some even ground to base a new relationship? It happens more than you know.
2007-11-11 08:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple!you still love her...Why not get her back?If you miss her,Try to sort things out...But,I felt sad about the way you've said,She's been abusive with the kids.I'm a mother too!and It hurts me to hear such situations that kids aren't being treated well.I'm a loving and very caring mom.Kids are everything.I hated it and fight aswell,If my husband being rough with my kids...Are they her real kids?how can she treat them cruel..
You miss her coz,You just lost her,and perhaps,you're not used to being alone anymore,since you've been with her for such along time.And it's hard for you to get over it...Why not give her a second chance?Talking to her is always the best solution rather than waiting for some'Miracle',If you think that she deserves it...
2007-11-11 08:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have children, plus maybe you could get her into counseling. Especially for the kids sake. She might be ill. Good Luck!
2007-11-11 07:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by itsmetrea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stockholm syndrome.
2007-11-11 08:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate how you feel about a range of things to each other.
2007-11-11 08:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really miss her or, you miss the sex?
2007-11-11 07:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Ellis O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋