She is 14, will be 15 next month. On the surface everything looks, sounds, acts FINE. But her grades, disobedience, & grasp on reality have all slipped into an insanity zone level.
We get along although she wonders why I'm always "stressy" toward her. I am a stay at home Mother (well, I only work about 10 hours per MONTH, which I am very thankful for) so I have time, energy, faith & desire to [help] get back on the right path.
What to do? I have tried so much. I guess it is back to supervising her like a 3 year old and keeping her as close as I do my 1 year old. Thanks for your help, suggestions, links.
Please keep the insults. Peace.
*p.s. - and by *completely, yes, I mean completely, hormonally, academically, materially, comPLETEly...
2007-11-10 22:36:02 · 5 answers · asked by Sleek 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your daughter is normal...they ALL lose their minds around this age.
And yes, she is crazy.
You need to try--and this is tough--to back off of her a bit (rather than supervising her like a 3-year-old) and set clear boundaries.
She is attempting to wiggle and grow within constraints that, to you, seem too loose--and to her, seem to tight. Let her know that you understand her growing need for independence but that you are not going to accept bad grades, attitude, etc. and that there will be punishments (loss of privileges).
I know this is a tough time and that living with a teenager is a lot of work...she will grow up, barely remember going nuts and become a functional adult...we all do.
Best of luck.
2007-11-10 22:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by C. W. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the crowd like that she hangs with? And does she have any interests in after school activities, sports teams, cheerleading /dancing, clubs etc? This might help her focus on other things and the more active they are sometimes helps boost their grades. Girls think they are sooo grown up when they are 15 so don't try to treat her like a 3 year old. Have patience sit down and have a one on one chats with her everyday if even for two minutes to let her know you are always there for her. Try not to be judgemental but be supportive. You will not believe the turn around and will be pleasantly surprised when she starts coming to you for advice or shares with you details on her and her friends lives.
2007-11-11 08:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by kimber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really is just ypical teen girl behavior and is completley normal, if you resort to treating her and watching her like a toddler then you are essentially asking for more trouble. you need to give her space and time, and instead of restricting her freedom give her a little more so she feels that you understand her, but you have you make it clear that you are trusting her, and that if she breaks the trust there will be consequesnces. i dont think it's fair to say that she's lost her and if you take thisattitude it really won't help. Good Luck and remember she is probaly having an even worse time going through this phase than you are, try and have some compassion.
2007-11-11 06:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by pop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with your supervision plan. It's going to push to everything you'd hate for her to be doing. I get a little aggravated seing mothers asking this every minute. It's like they forgot the crap they did twenty years ago. If she wonders why your stressy towards her, it's probably the way your talking to her. My mom did it too without realizing and just the tone of voice and way she talked to me would get my blood boiling. And please, just know that all teenagers do this. They're human.
2007-11-11 12:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Starr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'YOU' are the parent, everything she wants and needs comes from you. Remind her of that, everytime she acts older than you. Children today are allowed 'way to much' attitude. I believe in love them, spoil them, but never let them forget you are in charge.
2007-11-11 11:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by angels_angelsarehere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋