when u get married do husbands not all but some start to treat u different ,act as if they rule or control u?why do they stop trying or just blame it all on you?If it was all wonderful then u got married and a guy doe this what is that?Im so confused?
2007-11-10 19:33:58 · 10 answers · asked by sweetie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some guys just stay on their best behaviour to get the girl. Once they are official, they reckon no need to be on said behaviour any longer. Sad.
2007-11-10 19:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships have a certain amount of control. Maybe you are in charge of the money and he is in charge of taking out the trash, either way someone is in charge of each aspect. Each of us test our limits at one point or another and if your husband is trying to control, it will be up to you to decide how far you are willing to let him push. Things change only if someone wants them to. I would suggest you try putting a little extra effort for a while and if it doesn't change how he acts then your marriage is in trouble. One person can't be everything.
2007-11-11 03:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Angela E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ellen L is right. If you take it you will be taking it for the rest of your life. Stand up for yourself and let him know that you are not property and you will be treated with respect. Not all men are like that. Just the ones that faked it to get a wife. Good luck dear.
2007-11-11 03:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels he has you now, he can do what he wants when he wants. Let the man know you won't put up with that . Don't be a doormat.
Tell him respect goes both ways. Open the lines of communication.
2007-11-11 03:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He no longer has to impress you. He's quit trying. Let him know that is not the way to KEEP you. Don't take this behavior from him. Good luck.
2007-11-11 03:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people change and things happen... marrige is major... and your dude would be dead emotionally if not changed...so you got the better of the two... hey if it bothers you that much ...talk to him.. and by the by ...good luck
2007-11-11 03:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by marcie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will only know the real person once you too lived in one roof.... you both have to make some adjustments.... talk, compromise
2007-11-11 04:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before marriage he will call you sweetie, sweetie because you have no owner, then after marriage He is your Boss, so please keep quiet.
2007-11-11 03:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by SK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
idk my parents been married 13 years there still like you just explained its just how it is once yor married they think that they own you now
2007-11-11 03:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by hellfire83647 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's blaming stuff on you, that's abuse. Controlling, also abuse.
2007-11-11 03:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋