Give me a few examples?

Question

of how I can tell if a person is taking an advantage of me

Answer 1

1-they ask favours from you all the time.
2-they ask to borrow things and never return them or return them very late
3-when their other friends are around, they ignore you and hang out with them
4- they insult you and later say that they are just joking
5- they compliment rather on your clothes or your abilities rather than who you really are
6- they lie to you "little white lies" also count
7- they cancel a meeting, appointment, or time to hang out often when you two schedule such thing
8- this is if youre still in school: they ask you to do their homework
9- they try to cheat off you in tests
10-for projects, they team up with you and leave the whole thing to you later apologizing making up lame excuses on why they couldn't help
11- when playing sports with teams, they would pick you last or around last
12- in gym class, they prefer to be with someone else than you if you have to have a partner or whatever
13- it's usually you who calls, if they call it's usually(directly or indirectly) to ask you a favour
14- when yu make a joke they dont laugh if youre with other people
15- they dont stand up for you or try and help you when you have problems
16- theyre usually too proud of themselves, and look down at you whenever possible

Answer 2

OOOhhh good question! I think you just stated the first one: gut feeling. Instinct scores high on my list.

What about, do they reciprocate fully? If you do something for them, do they also for you, or is there always a shortfall, or an excuse, or a line?

If you change the rules midstream to the relationship (whether a person, or an organization etc) do they try and accomodate you, or does it really upset them and their plans?

Can you find reasons that they might have for doing so? Can you research the reasons to see if any of them validate your gut feeling?

What if you just totally back out of the situation for a while, and see how you feel first, and then see what kind of reaction they have?

Answer 3

Little 'red flags' go up - aka your intuition - making you question something that just happened. It's getting the feeling that the relationship is one-way and you're NOT on the receiving end. It's promises not kept, it's feeling disappointed, and it's hoping things will change - which don't.

Answer 4

1- when they are only around you when they need something.
2- in conversation its all about them
3- Ex: if the person has a casual get together at her house and dont unvite you or if the person do invite you she's avoiding you.