I have this mean awful person at work who has spread lies about me, used my hardworking and related it to herself, used and abused my kindness to do stuff for her,spread rumors in the office that am hated by everyone..and tried to destroy my picture infront of my boss.
this person now has been transferred to another section, but her boss has been kicked,so am afraid they will bring her down again, I cant stand her, if i hear her voice I feel like throwing up,I actually hate her to a degree that sometimes my legs go numb and I become physically sick.
I need serious help.
2007-11-10 17:51:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To the one who said that I should bring this matter to a superior, I told him and he said am oversensitive.
2007-11-10 18:06:46 · update #1
First of all DON’T quit.
Secondly, think, the person you are talking about, she is an insect from the garbage.
Thirdly, think, as a person you are 100 tms better than her. You don’t spread lie about people as she does. You are the best.
Fourthly, just don’t CARE her. Do your assignments with all your dedication & honesty. Your good deeds will talk for you.
Then, let her come down to join your section again. Tell yourself that “why do I need to be the loser?”. Never react to her any moves, simply deny. Gradually she’ll come to know that she has no influence on you. She’ll find it useless & she’ll cease to pock you.
Finally, take a deep breath & enjoy your life to the fullest. Lots of good wishes for you. Hope my words help you.
2007-11-10 18:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by Tumpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does sound like a bad situation for yourself. Can you look for another job, by any chance? Perhaps by thinking you are not stuck there, and can take time to find another place to work, that will alleviate some of the frustration you feel.
I'm sorry that you have found someone like that. It's very tough to remain nice in that situation, but if you can, remain nice to the other workers, they will soon realize that the problem is her, and not you. Even if they don't , you will have the assurance that you did the best you could and didn't retaliate.
Hatred, anger, evil... these things are projected upon other people when you feel they are beneath you, not as good as you, or deserving. While there are many despicable things you state about this person, she is still a human being. We have no idea why she is acting this way, but perhaps it's from terrible things going on in her private life, and she isn't coping well.
If you find that you can't work through this on your own, it would be advisable to seek out someone you can discuss it with, a minister or psychologist. Don't put it off as long term stress can make you sick for a long time.
2007-11-11 02:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hatred of this person accomplishes nothing positive for you. Neither will worrying about whether she'll be assigned to your section again. You don't know what will happen. So just let the whole thing drop and get on with your life. You can't live in fear of the unknown.
2007-11-11 02:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd give her some chocolate candies lighted coated with some laxatives. not too much, you don't want to hurt her (well, you probably do, but that's illegal). i recommend a box of chocolates, presented to her work station with no one to see who dropped off the chocolates. and maybe a little love letter to go with it. from a guy that she likes, but doesn't like her back. i know, it sounds so cruel and evil, but it's not my choice, it's yours.
or you could just try to continue to be nice, and not help her out, basically just try to not associate with her. and talking behind her back may not help you as so much as hurt you, not everyone likes people who complain a lot, especially when it's against other people (even moreso when they like the person - i doubt that everyone is getting a good dose of her evil nature).
2007-11-11 02:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by hey h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you bring this matter to a superior? Be sure to let them know everything you just told us so he can keep you seperated.
They need to know these things. Otherwise, it's best to just look for another job.
2007-11-11 02:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait for her to get off work and wear a ski mask and kick the hell out of her and tell her that if she even talks in the office again youll finish the job. she'll probally quit.
2007-11-11 02:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
quit
2007-11-11 01:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by andrewbison 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋