her brothers are 4 and 9 i want a punishment she will NEVER forget and i told her to come up with a good one and i think she has a question on here about that. but i want a REALLY HARSH one. it was terrible for everyone in the vehichle.
2007-11-10 16:51:48 · 25 answers · asked by Taya L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
no friends at all
stays in the house cleaning at all times
no allowence
extra chores
no tv
no cell phone
no computer,not even for homework
only breakfast lunch and dinner,no snacks
do her own laundry
thats about all i can think of
2007-11-10 17:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by football player 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This sounds fun, hrm. I really like the 80's clothes idea, but only if it's really garishly 80's and she would actually not like dressing that way. Or you could make her wear something else awkward, perhaps a band tshirt to a terrible band, or some shirt that says something like "I love to sleep with my teddy bear," or something, if you can find anything like that.
What else... obviously, I'd take away all of her gadgets and entertainment privileges. Phones, computers, ipods, tv's, etc. Just because otherwise she can pretty much ignore any punishment you present and still enjoy herself.
But that's a typical punishment, not very memorable. So after that, here are some ideas. Just remember, you don't want to punish her with something that is actually a good thing - like forcing her to volunteer, or forcing her to spend quality time together, because she'll develop a negative connotation about those things.
That said, you can still annoy and embarass her.
Make her go with you to do errands, or just go out for a few hours, to the mall or to dinner or whatever, forcing her to listen to music she hates - perhaps something like Barry Manilow or Yani or cheesy love songs or whatever she can't stand.
Extra points if you keep the car windows rolled down, the music turned up, and you sing out loud - very loudly - with the music, anytime you're at a stoplight or near people on the street.
Even better if you drive around the local mall parking lot, or local teen hangout, while doing it.
And she's dressed in 80's clothes at the time.
And you park, get out of your car with your daughter, and after walking halfway to the store or restaurant or whatever, start dancing like a fool.
With your husband. To the tango, or a waltz.
Or....
Make her go with you to the grocery store, and buy embarassing items, like a huge box of pads, and some yeast infection cream. Then at the counter, tell the cashier that your poor daughter is having such a bad week! A yeast infection and a really bad period at the same time. Then you could maybe ask the cashier if he/she knows if the items you are buying are any good, or the best suited for a 14 year old, etc.
Or you could go into the grocery store with some condoms and show her how to put them on bananas when people walk by.
Or if you want to do something that's more of a punishment than a random embarassment, you could just force her to do something she dislikes. Like going to play putt-putt, or raking the leaves out of the yard, or taking the bus to school if you usually drive her, etc.
edit.
All that said, I thought I'd come back here and make an additional note. Take care not to cross over from slight punishment and embarassment and into lasting distress or cruelty. It's one thing for YOU to act silly in front of her friends, or to embarrass her in front of strangers, but don't make HER look too bad in front of her friends, or make her do anything dangerous or unhealthy, or do something extreme like forcing her to cut her hair or not take a bath for a week or what have you. Hopefully you won't do those things, but I felt bad giving ideas to a stranger without adding some disclaimer, just in case. So there you go.
Be creative and a little devious but not harmful!
2007-11-11 01:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by raindreamer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has it occurred to you that these
2 little boys may have been driving
Sis up the wall for sometime, now.
This sounds really one-sided to me.
I remember how nasty little boys
can be to an older sister.
At 14, she probably would like
a little privacy and being stuck
in a car with 2 little boys ages
4 and 9 is enough to send any
teenage girl into fits.
You might give her the benefit
of the doubt.
I also remember being 4 and 9
and how hateful and mean we
could be to an older sibling.
I'm sure that this never occurred
to you that these little "angels"
were not being little "devils"
behind your back.
2007-11-11 01:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ Bubastes, Cat Goddess♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all, did you take any stops on the car ride? you probably did, but if you didn't, she has a right to be angry. second, you could limit her privileges. I have the problem with my own daughter with her not respecting me, but my sons are 10 and 8. Stop her from going to a party, or put a password on the computer. I've heard there is actually a way to block myspace, but i don't know how to do it. but whatever you do, do not take anything that has to do with her schoolwork. that will just make it worse.
2007-11-11 00:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Make her do all of her brothers' chores for a week, as well as do things for them. Bring them drinks, make their snacks, so on.. a little pay back for what she did to them on the trip..
No cell phone, no internet, no movies, no tv, no friends over for a week or two. She can come home from school, do homework, eat supper, and that's about it.
Have her write her brothers an apology for her behavior on the trip, and one for you as well.
A friend of the family once had her daughter write a 300 word essay as a punishment. Her daughter had apparently disrespected her for the last time, and ended up writing an essay on that very topic, RESPECT!
Good luck!
2007-11-11 01:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Okay hunni you gave your daughter permission to figure out what's her punishment you must be out of your mind you are the parent no wonder she is acting like a Brat.....Make her wash dishes or cook dinner for a month since your giving her permission to obviously be a women.......
2007-11-11 01:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Taya, i do not know if you are serious or not..but do not torture your kids.. a slap on the hand should be good enough.. i was abused and when your parent abuses you, you really feel unloved and worthless that you just want to die to be free. i dont know how you cannot control her from a 13 hour trip.
its all your fault. your the one who should of taught her disciplines when she started to know right from wrong. you got to let you child know when enough is enough. where do you think kids learn this from? their parents. its not her fault she grew up the way to be. she's your responsibility, you reap what you sew. just isolate her from technology.. she will feel as if she has no life.. and will learn.. thats a big no no.
2007-11-11 01:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by uniqu3(skyline) 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
how about she has to do 26 hours worth of something she hates doing...like extra homework...or chores. not all at once but it should take up atleast 2 whole days. you can add hours too if u want telling her that it is not acceptable.
2007-11-11 01:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Teenagers are like dogs. If you dont punish them immeadetly after their bad behavior its pretty useless.
You could think of a really HARSH punishment that she'll NEVER forget, but I hope youll also pay for her THERAPY bills.
2007-11-11 01:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle H 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Make her go to school wearing clothes from the 80's.
Or better yet, why don't you find some older teens or you and your family go on another trip and torment her the whole time.
2007-11-11 00:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 8⤊ 3⤋