we were together from the time i was 16 to 29, and had 2 children (now adults). every time i would see his older brother, i felt i was fixed up with the wrong brother. i would push these feelings a side. we divorced 15 years ago. i just recently saw my ex-brother in law, i still have the same feelings about him. he's not married, but has been with the same woman for 7 years, he has a 2 year old child with his other lady friend. i don't look the same as i have gained weight due to depression, so i don't expect him to drop everything, and come running to me. i don't even know if he feels the same as i do. i did get the feeling a couple of times years ago he had some feelings towards me, and we might could of gotten something started. i was scared i was reading him wrong. i didn't want to make things ackword. i know he will always be a good friend. i don't want to lose him. he also has multiple relationships at once. i don't know if i can handle that or not. i'm a one man jealous woman.
2007-11-10 16:44:15 · 5 answers · asked by Barbara L 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's not married, and his brother my ex-husband, and him hate each other due to their own issues. his parents died a few years back. one sister would be happy to have me back in the family, the other disowned all siblings after their parent's died. my sons are 22, and 25, and just want me happy. i have talked to them about this. their dad abandond them, so there isn't any loyality towards him. my family like the ex-brother in law. he has always treated us good. i'm not looking to marriage at this time. i just don't want to make things weird between us if he isn't interested, or if things didn't work out between us. i just don't think i can handle an open relationship with him seeing other women. i might just keep on pushing these feelings aside like i have before. i just wanted to get some feed back. thank you for your answers so far.
2007-11-10 17:32:17 · update #1
Not a good idea to get involved with him. There is no good happy ending here. Especially because of his brother and the rest of his family. They will not accept this and it will tare two brothers apart and hurt the relationships of even the children. He sounds like a loser anyways and he can't commit. I'm sure you don't want to think anyone is cheating on you and especially if everyone is going to lose respect for you by dating him. I would suggest you start taking care of your self first. Fix yourself up....feel good look good and lift your spirits up enough to get out there and see whats out there. Find that one woman man out there that you do deserve.
2007-11-10 17:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by just bored 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said your sons are 22 & 25??? Means you are mid 40s. I guess. Cool. Do you really wana make a family now? As an outsider, it looks not logical to look for a boy friend when your sons are with their girl friends. (Sounds little different right?) Cool. That too with a man with almost a settled family. It is right to be away from him, even if he has a lust or liking to be with you. He is your x b i l. and the relation is faar from a marriage. So call him a friend than better half.
People will say, do what you like. But I do not agree with them because we are in a society and many people are around us to comment & learn from us. Specially your kids will learn from you. So be example for them. My friend's mom had an "affair" with a married man. It really affected the whole family a lot when it came to my friend's marriage. So think twice.
2007-11-10 19:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Stay FAR away from him. Didn't you know siblings of your husband are off limits. Apparently you don't believe in "until death do us part" which is pretty sad, but believe me you are in for a world of hurt if you pursue this brother. That's like sleeping in bed with a bomb. It'll go off sooner or later. If you're going to pursue anyone in the family, make it your ex.
2007-11-10 16:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no he wont change from being with other women you stated you was the jealious type he wont change . my opion?
2007-11-10 16:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is married. leave him alone.Also if you did get together what would ypur kids call him? Daddy Uncle? GROSS!!!!
2007-11-10 16:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋