does marriage ?

Question

counseling really help ?

me and my husband went one time toghter
and it didnt help at all

we never even talked about it after wards

Answer 1

This is a complicated question. Marriage counseling is designed to help you understand why you’re feeling the things that you’re feeling. When you ask “Does it work?” what you’re actually asking is, will marriage counseling save my marriage? Well, some of the other questions that may need to go along with that are, “Will marriage counseling make my partner love me?” or “Will marriage counseling ignite the spark in my relationship after the spark has been dead for a long time?” In my opinion, marriage counseling will probably not save your marriage, but you and your spouse will if the connection is still there. The counselor is just there to be more of a mediator to help you and your partner explore your feelings about whatever the situation might be. The counselor is not going to save your marriage. They’ll help you keep the conversation under control and give you some techniques to help you communicate with each other.

The real truth is that if your connection to your partner is dead and after every attempt on your part to regain that connection, you’re not able to, then there’s a high probability that a marriage counselor is going to help you understand why you feel the way you do, but not save your marriage. So when you ask if it works, it depends on what you mean. Will it save your marriage? No. Will it help you understand why your connection to your partner is broken? Possibly. It might also give you valuable insight into your own problems. Is it worth trying? Yes. You’ll undoubtedly learn some very interesting things about yourself and your partner.

I don’t know enough about your situation to give you any more advice on this topic. When connections get broken, there’s usually a good reason for it. It’s the hardest thing in the world to accept, but the only way to find peace is to learn how to accept this life for what it is. Concentrate on making yourself happy. Look at everything that your life is and ask yourself, what do I really want? Give yourself the things that you need. Relationships come and go. When you’re strong in yourself, life, being the Hell that it is, becomes incredibly easy to accept. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 2

Yes, it can help, but only at that moment. Once you'll leave the counselors office everything will go back to being the same unless someone is willing to make a change.
Most men don't feel that they have to talk to someone that lives outside of their home; how to run it or the marriage and they will not want to continue the counseling sessions.
The best way to make a marriage work b4 having to go to counseling, please understand that marriage is built on trust, communication and respect if you keep all these things as a daily part of your married life there will not be any problems in your marriage. Also remember this is a true saying:
A FAMILY THAT PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER.
You and your spouse should always say a prayer every morning/day before going off to your separate jobs or just your separate ways. Marriage is easy; it takes both people to always remember to think like a married person not a single person, why have your single women or men friends over to your house all the times, why always go out with the single women or men friends, start hanging with the married and in love couples-not the ones that are not on you and your spouse level, you're married so do what married people do "when in Rome you do what the Romans do". Always go places together; if I see you I know that your husband is not far behind. At the end of the day, counseling is not necessary if you follow the marriage plan, love being Married.

Answer 3

Marriage counseling is a waste of money. Is an example of an industry created with a sole purpose to profit from somebody's misery. It should be considered in the same category as fortune telling. Some people are simply not compatible with each other and got together for the wrong reasons in the first place. If that's the case, nothing will help. For the rest of problematic marriages, it's up to the couples to figure stuff out and learn how to compromise and meet each other's needs. No counselor will ever have any effect on the process.

Answer 4

I would do research to find someone good. If you are still skeptical, try open communication or writing each other a letter about what you each feel would help your marriage. If the love is there and you both can do this in a mature manner, you will be understanding of each others feelings and try to work together on fixing your relationship. If it results in argument and criticism, you need to rethink your love for each other and maybe try the counseling again.

Answer 5

Counseling isn't something you can do one time and think it's going to just open the heavens and reverse what's wrong with your marriage. You both have to be committed to openly communicating about what's working and what's not. Listening with out judging and using the counselor to keep you on track and figure out steps to healing what's not working. If you do this then yes it can work.

Answer 6

The two of you may have needed more than one session or a different counselor. My husband and I went and the first time we didn't feel it was working either, but we found a different counselor and went a few more times before it really seemed to work. Just give it a chance before you give up on it.

Answer 7

One time isn't to to help at all. It didn't take only one fight or one argument to get you to the point that you guys felt the need to seek outside help right? It takes a huge commitment to try to get help and a lot of time but it does work if you are both open to getting help. Going once was just a waste of time and money honey.

Answer 8

Take time and effort on both your parts. If one of you doesn't even try, counseling won't make a bit of difference.

Answer 9

I've been told by some friends that it does help.

Other friends have told me that it just made them realize that they were headed for divorce.

For me, I asked my husband to go 6 years ago - he wouldn't. I asked again 4 years ago, and again 2 years ago.
Last year when I told him I wanted a divorce, he suggested we go to marriage counseling.

I refused to go. Our divorce should be final by Christmas

Good luck to you

Answer 10

One of the biggest parts of marriage is sacrifice.

If you both cannot do this, then give up now and save the money!