Everyone at school thinks I'm a spoiled snob...?

Question

I've been to a few different high schools. The one that I attend at present is a lower decile level than the previous. Meaning that the parents of the students don't earn as much money.

Anyway, my Mum is a single parent and I have a younger brother. We both do quite well. I have a Macbook laptop, a video Ipod, two expensive cellphones, a pure breed puppy and nice clothes. I try to be modest and I think I deserve all of it because I do have a part time job and get very good grades at school. I also participate in a range of activities and volunteer.

I don't brag about what I have but people still call me spoiled. It's coming to the end of the year and those who are attending University next year are starting to panic and worry about how they'll pay for their fees. I'm lucky that my parents started a trust fund for me.

I don't mean to come across like this. By no means have I had a sheltered life. How do I help them see that I'm not really like this?

I do volunteer work for a native animal trust in my country as well as the RSPCA. I have also given up my christmas to serve dinner to homeless people.

I have two cellphones because they are on different networks and I have family and friends in Australia, so I have one phone to contact them and an other phone for my friends here. I payed for my phones and my phone credit.

I also paid for half of my laptop.

I don't brag and I don't bring the things I have to show off to people. I have my laptop at school for school work and they see it.

I'm being modest, I could say that I'm a caring person who puts others before myself etc.

I have been through hard times as well. My Mother remarried an alcoholic who was also a gambling addict and he stole all our money and left us with nothing.

We've worked back to where we are now and that's just the beginning of it.

Answer 1

you dont really sound spoiled, you seem to appreciate all you have, so dont worry what they think, true friends will c the real you, just dont act fake and youll make friends. college should be better-good luck

Answer 2

You may or may not be a brat, but you certainly are spoiled. The least you can do is admit it and stop bragging about what you have. So what if you have a part time job and get good grades? I know people that are the same and they still don't get any of the great things you have. Good for you that you don't have to worry about how to pay for college but you shouldn't go around saying that because you're one of the very few. All throughout your question, I did not see any hint of you sympathizing with the people who aren't as lucky as you or showed that you haven't had a sheltered life. Why would you expect other people that are less fortunate to feel bad for you when you already have it so good?

Answer 3

To tell you the truth,you can't change the way people think.I bet if they really got to know you they wouldn't say that your a spoiled person.In life people are always jealous of others that are doing well for their self,just like you.Keep being your self,that's all you can really do.You have a roof over your head,you do well in school,you do extra activities after school and you volunteer,and your parents opened a trust fund for you.You are living the good life that is why they are jealous.I bet your family worked really hard to have what they have in life nothing is free...

Never stop being you,don't let what they say bother you,your better than that,keep in mind your human,so it can bother you a little but just don't let it stop you from, your success that will come your way.They wish they had what you have and they are jealous of you.that is the way the world is,just live your life for you, not them..Hope this helps take care you have your self a good one...

Answer 4

By not trying to change their minds. Through life people will find anything to be jealous about, I've been promoted twice at my job, yet people secretly make fun of me calling me Superman. (by singing da ta daaa I'll do it!)

Strangely they don't put the two together since I'm a high producing person I'm being rewarded.

Life is a lot more fun when you don't worry about things you can't control. You can't control what they think so try not to worry about it.

Plus what you are experiencing is also called being Hated On in the hip hop community, tell them to Stop Hatin!

Answer 5

Sounds like you are to me. Not everyone makes a lot of money and a lot of kids are forced to get a job to pay for their college so they can't even go to college right away or if they apply for scholarships then they have to pay off all that money from the loans for the rest of their lives. Not every child's parents have the time to build their kids a trust fund.

Answer 6

First of all, why two cellphones? That's excessive.
There's nothing wrong with having money as long as you don't flaunt it. Make sure that you do not look down on people that do not wear designer clothes or have expensive things. Show them that you have a giving heart and never act like you are better or more deserving of material possesions then other people. Many people have wealth, that does not mean they deserve it. Be thankful. Show people that you are not just a rich snob, but that you are a caring intelligent girl.

Answer 7

It all depends on the way you act at school, dress, talk, etc. You cant change the minds of people. Some people think i am spoiled. I do not have one designer outfit in my closet or a nice purse. So people most times think others are "spoiled" if they have something they don't have.

Answer 8

Better to help yourself SEE what others may be seeing.

If you work hard, do the right things (volunteer etc) you DO DESERVE comforts, but not acting like you do, is the KEY!

One thing to remember is that flaunting what you have in front of others who do not have these things, tends to make people resentful.

A purebred dog is certainly something to be thankful for, epecially if its an award winning one, but the affection one recieves from their pet (as well as gives it) is what counts.

It seems you count down your possesions as if they are war badges.
It ould do you weell to take a good perspective of yourself because your attitude will, without doubt, cost you a great deal in your future.
Possibly just not your meger possesions, but perhaps a great deal more.

Be grateful for what you have, but consider that others may be seeing something you have simply overlooked.

Its always easier judging others than it is to judge ourselves, but be careful not to judge others in the same way because of what they DO NOT have.

Answer 9

You don't brag about what you have? Who said this:

"I have a Macbook laptop, a video Ipod, two expensive cellphones, a pure breed puppy and nice clothes."

How about paying a bit less attention to what you own and a little more to who you are. I mean, you took the time to list all your posessions, but didn't say a word about what kind of volunteer work you do. That says a lot.

Answer 10

Just try not to show all your stuff of but everyone else is just jealous :) People will find a way to make fun of anyone for anything and everything no matter how stupid, for example: "Hey you, YEAH YOU, your face is ugly, OoOhhhhhhh.. DISS!" lol, seriously, they're just all being immature.

Answer 11

Stop showing off your MacBook laptop, your i-Pod, your expensive cellphones (and why on earth do you need **2** of them???), your purebreed puppy, and your nice clothes, especially to those who don't have what you do.

I'm guessing your attitude towards your school (that its at a lower decile level, so therefore the students come from families that are poorer than yours) comes across in your interactions with your fellow students -- they know it -- and they resent you for it.

Quit obsessing on the material things you have as compared to what your classmates and their families have or don't have, and focus more on getting to know your classmates as individual PEOPLE with personalities and talents and skills that you can admire.

My $.02......