My Boyfriend and I have Been together for 3 years but we argue everyday and he tends to like to call me names.

Question

Like i said in the question my boyfriend calls me names Like ***** and things like that he will tell me to get the "F" but the curse word out of his car and i broke up with him in the summer and he called my work everyday crying wanting me to come back to him which i did thinking that he would change but he didnt and i am in college and he dont like it at all but he bought and house and wants me to move in with him my parents hate him and wont talk to him the same with him he hates them so i was wondering should i stay with him and see if it works out or leave him to find some one else i am 18 years old i would really like to know what you think

The reason i wont break up with him is because he told me he would hire someone to beat me up someone he knows i could not beat up and i dont know if i can find someone else i would put a picture but i dont know how to put one on here

Answer 1

Sweetie your 18 in collage sounds like if you ,leave him alone you'd be on the right trac. You sure don't deserve to be treated taht way it's not love thats called (hate) and controlling ,get rid of it now and move on there's still time and hey time heels .

Answer 2

forget him and move on. You will find when you finish college that you will meet a whole new group of people and being involved with this guy will only hold you back, for one thing.
For another, the fact that he came crying to you and you took him back will make him think he can do it again. the fact that your parents don't like him is a sign that they see things in him that you don't because they do want the best for you and even those who read what you wrote can see that this guy is far from the best that you can do. He doesn't want you but he wants the control over you or he wouldn't call you names and order you out of his car like he did. The fact that he doesn't like you going to college is just another sign that he wants to control you, all signs that this is the worst that you can do. Tell him you need your space and concentrate on college If he bothers you there at school get a restraining order to keep him away. You have too much going for you at 18 and in college to get involved with a loser like this and you will find someone to make you happier if you wait until you are through with school before getting involved with anyone. Good Luck to you.
I just saw the part where you added that he threatened to beat you up if you split up with him so if he threatens that tell him that you will just send the police after him if he does and if he bothers you more get a restraining order against him and be careful for a while to make sure he keeps his distance. try to not go anywhere by yourself if you can avoid it for a while.

Answer 3

this is very serious. dump his *** now girl! u r still young and hes definitely insecure and furthermore, no guy should ever call u a name EVER! and if hes "threatening" u that he'll get some1 2 beat u up thats a sign u should break up w/ him and report his *** 2 the cops. no i know u love him and everything but u dont deserve that s***. i know its hard but u better get a restraining order or something against him. if ur parents dont like him and if he has pleasure in calling u filthy names u better break up w/ him because hes only bringing u down. hun, i've been in ur situation a little worse though but i gotten through it pretty good. ur still young and have ur whole life ahead of u. face it, hes never gonna change dont ever think theres hope. when a guy says that they always do that just 2 sucker the girls into staying w/ them and that s*** is not gonna happen. stay strong and break up w/ him 4 urself and ur safety please! and if/when u do take a loooooooong break 2 focus on urself because it sounds like hes making u have very low self-esteem and i bet ur a very beautiful,bright,young girl that has wonderful things going for her. if u need someone to talk 2 to help u get through it just message me or something. take care and good luck

oh yeah forgot to add that if a guy wants u 2 move in w/ him that means that ur his "territory" and means he can do w/e he wants w/ u and u dont need that crap. dump his *** =)

Answer 4

That sure is NOT a good start of a relationship. He's treating you w/disrespect by calling you degrading names. That in itself does not show he has respect for you. You don't want to be w/someone who does not respect you, & that's exactly what you'd be doing. You already broke up w/him once, you know in your heart you'll do it again. He didn't change then, he will NOT change now. This is his personality period, take it or leave it. Wishing is not going to m ake it so regardless of how much you want him to change. He's proven it, does he have to prove it to you again? Just because he has a house proves nothing. Your parents have reasons for not liking him. I wouldn't like him either if he treated my 18 yr. old daughter like he treats you! Get away from him & put him in your past & leave him there. Move on, go forward to someone who w/treat you w/respect. He's NOT going to!

Answer 5

I think the best thing to do would be to break up wit him. If he calls u names then he really must not know how important u really are. No one is going to change just because they say they will. If he doesnt care that u r trying to do something with ur life by going to college then he must be the dumdest person on this earth and u really dont need him. Find someone who really cares about u and wat u want and they get along with ur parents.

Answer 6

Diana--that isn't a significant, mature relationship--you're no longer interacting in a healthful way. you're no longer effectively speaking. This guy could or will possibly no longer have actual subject concerns--yet he seems to maintain your interest with those phony bouts of melancholy--he's a controlling, manipulating guy or woman who found out which you will stick around if he makes use of those stupid strategies. any frequent woman could have dumped him an prolonged time in the past. you could no longer probably assume us to have faith that battling all day and night is frequent. The crying is this variety of tactic to apply to maintain your interest. Suicide is yet another tactic----he's accustomed to a thank you to maintain you on that string--related to him. this may be a unwell relationship--he's unwell--you're unwell--pass get a common guy--permit him do even though he needs--you're to no longer blame for anyone doing injury to themselves. Suicide is a vulnerable affordable cowardly act----you're to no longer blame. yet once you think of you're--then you definately are as unwell as him. tell him to pass to a doctor and give up calling you--you could desire to verify what a common relationship is and give up paying interest to those losers.

Answer 7

Why would you have a boyfriend you argue with everyday? Is that really what you want in your life?

Drop him and move on. Don't you deserve to be in a relationship with respect?

Answer 8

You dont deserve this. You should be treated with love and respect. Ditch him. He isnt no good at all. You could find better.

Answer 9

NEXT!!!!! Move on, there are alot of men out there who you will get along with and won't treat you like that.