whats the point?
2007-11-10 15:05:02 · 19 answers · asked by male.confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many people against for it but they never admit the fact that a large percentage of married couples engaged cheatings both or either husbands or wives. Not all married couples are happy sexually at all times during married because of mess in the bedrooms specially older couples whose relationships last more than 10 years and more. When a spouse wants happiness through sex as we are entitled to enjoy while we are alive but he or she, as spouse, can not fulfill this basic obligation, is there any remedy to enjoy it without cheatings your mate? Sex is one component of happiness, it is like food. We would starved for it when long time we missed. NO man or woman on his/her right mind who would accept the fact the he/she can live through out his/her life without feeling of his/her biological needs? Only abnormal people maybe. Therefore, it is hypocrite to deny this.
I have no rights to speak for those couples who lost interest to have sex with their mates while their lusts to each other faded as years go on and still faithful to his/her religion because it is immoral to do so when there is an acceptable alternative by this couples' generation to avoid cheatings even religiously not accepted, why should I choose to believe my belief if my marriage life is unhappy? Who will dictate us to live happily together with my husband? As long as we mutually agreed what we do as husband and wife to keep our married life intact for longer period and we still enjoy what ever we want without causing or annoying other people.
My husband and I don’t care to any one who has strong objection to open married as long as I do not disturb them and they do not disturb us as well. We are not obliged to follow what best for you or we do not obliged you to follow what best for us? We lived in a different perspective view and we differs how to live happily.
2007-11-10 17:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reasons that people get married at all, a loving partnership, commitment etc. The only difference then between an open marriage and a monogamous marriage is that people in open marriages don't see sex as a foundation of love or marriage, but a fun activity. They don't base their marriages on sex, like the bible apparently tells us to do (or at least these religious people do!)
2007-11-10 23:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There has to be a piece missing from their soul that makes them want to cherish the other. It's natural to be monogamous if a couple are bonded. So whatever's missing that keeps them from bonding allows them to be whore their spouses out. It's a good thing to NOT understand how they think, otherwise you'd have a part of your soul missing as well.
2007-11-11 00:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open, meaning they cheat with couples together, like a 4-some, maybe they don't think it's cheating if both couples are married and they're all in it together....An excuse for getting with your best friend's spouse...or cheating individually...if you're regularly having sex with others and so is your spouse than you really don't care for each other, the marriage is disposable.
2007-11-10 23:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by mudpup 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my now ex girlfriend is the love of my life, but because she is much older than me, she is marrying her ex because they are comfortable friiends and while there is no love in the air and he has sexual problems, it works good for them politically. I just found out about the marriage, she could not even tell me for obvious reasons and I am torn--i realize that I have been her affair-the passionate boy toy and while she loves me, she is going broke and with two houses owned, love wont pay the bills and i am still in grad school.
2007-11-10 23:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick Hunt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree. The answer from most is that it adds spice and you should be confident in your relationship that bringing someone else in shouldn't make a difference. But truly what is the point of being married if you are going to break the basic covenant of the marriage vows.
2007-11-10 23:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well, I always tell my friend's wife that if she really loved him, she would bring him home a stripper once in a while...
She does not like the idea. But what man does not want 2 or even 3 women at once in a bed?
Women must please their man! That is what I say.
2007-11-10 23:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That was in the '70's! There was a book called, "Open Marriage" and the authors ended up divorced.
2007-11-10 23:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Obviously, it is for the tax write off because it sure is not about commitment. It just means that they want to be financially and legally on the hook in a relationship that will surely fail.
2007-11-10 23:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it is fun for them. and they do not get jealous. the point is to be able to have sex with other people so they don't get bored with the one they are with. it keeps their marriage strong. so i've heard. it wouldn't be right for me. i'd be too jealous.
2007-11-10 23:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by gretch 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋