and she was your only partner ever....would you cheat to see what you missed out on?
Or would you try and negotiate some kind of open marriage, perhaps swinging?
Or simply divroce to live the single life?
2007-11-10 14:40:09 · 23 answers · asked by male.confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would anyone even get married if they thought they missed out on something? Marriage is a covenant or committment to be devoted to that person. When one says vows they are stating that they are complete and haven't missed out on anything. My husband had one other 'partner' before he and I were married and he was my only. I have never had thoughts of wanting to be with anyone else to see what i've missed out on.
2007-11-10 14:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by Karen J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sakes don't hold that over her head like an ax about to fall. It will and it will destroy your marriage.
There is nothing wrong with an open marriage or to swing, but go into it with knowledge. My wife and I have swung and had an open marriage almost from the beginning. It can be good and is believe me.
I really suggest you and she talk it over and think about giving it a try rather than divorcing. I would like for you to write to me through Yahoo Answers. My email is with my profile. I can make some good suggestions by email I cannot do here. Believe me I really know where you are coming from and want to help.
2007-11-10 23:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets get something straight your wife had more partners than you did and you feel that you missed out because she is the only one you have been with did i get this right. First of all when you got married you should have known all about this before the marriage is not something to try and if you don't like it get out of it is commitment between you and god, Whats with this open marriage thing here let me tell something to you the bible says wives submit your self to your husband and husbands submit your selves to your wives
this means you and her not you and the rest of the world.
So are you being funny are serious.
best of luck
2007-11-10 22:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have gotten married if this is how you really think!!! You want to punish her for her life before you...how would you feel if SHE wanted to try others out to see what else she might be missing out on? How would YOU feel if she came up to you OUT OF THE BLUE and said "Hey, honey, how about an OPEN MARRIAGE from now on?"???
Go ahead...divorce her because she had partners BEFORE you...and you didn't...(was this by your choice?)...so Mister So-Much-More-Holier-Than-Thou, you can go out and see what you're missing...cause if she's smart, she sure won't be missing YOU!
2007-11-10 22:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think the man has missed the point in marriage. Why not just ask the wifey to show you what she likes best and try things in different ways with her.
2007-11-10 23:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be so screwed up to even ask this question. What did she ever see in your stupid ass in the first place. If you really loved her you would not even consider getting online asking others if you should break your marriage vows. Do you honestly thing it matters how many were before you. You never should have married her if you felt this way. She deserves so much better.
2007-11-10 22:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
watch porn together...role play...buy bedroom toys...take Polaroids of each other...shave your balls...have phone sex...email each other filthy letters...there are hundreds of ways for you to see what you missed out on simply by investing your time and fantasy's into your marriage. But if you're really hell-bent on having meaningless sex, at least have the decency to end things with your wife.
2007-11-10 22:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by Chow Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds more like someone is having insecurity issues that he doesn't "measure up" rather than seeing what he "missed out on"...
If the quanitiy of partners is that important to him, then he should divorce her so she could find a man who has more depth than the average sidewalk puddle...
2007-11-10 22:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you thought you were missing out you should have missed out on marriage and waited and got it on before you said the i do's.......but now you are in it and something like you not being with more people than her shouldn't be a issue!!!!! you married her for love RIGHT????
2007-11-10 23:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up and realize that life is too short and there are too many DISEASES out there with no cure for your butt to want to explore now. you are married now and so what she had more partners than you. be thankful that she is now with you and only you and now you can get on with life. you need to seek some therapy if you are thinking about divorcing her so that you can experience different sexual partners is ridiculous. grow up and be thankful for what you have. GodBless
2007-11-10 22:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋