Hi, my name is Chen (pronounce Wen)....and I've been feeling kinda depressed.....I miss my complete Best Friend, knowing she wudnt be getting married...you see?
i miss my ex gf, Lauren, a lot, you could see the whole story of how we got together in my other questions....it's been quite a few months and I miss her....apparently I found out she had an arranged marriage by her family...I mean, she's still not married yet tho...but......can I still get her to be my gf? I miss the laughs, picking on her, and having her always come over to my house everyday and watching our favorite azn dramas together, and how we use to play songs onto piano from the dramas, and many more factors....any help?
I remember how her family canceled the arranged marriage after she talked to them a few months ago, but then, they changed their minds later and that's how we broke up...I hate this feeling sooo much...Help plz? How can I get a lost heart back? or How can I get over being confused..all the tyme?
2007-11-10 14:23:00 · 5 answers · asked by Chen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am also azn and I know how you feel. My mom wanted to make arranged marriage to me but she understood when I explained to her that it's the 21st century. This depends on wether you get to actions or not. What her parents want is their daughter to have an easy life. If you have finished school and you have a job, things can be easier to handle. You can prove her parents that you can take good care of her because you can support her financially. You can buy her a house, a car, and you will be a good father when you will have children. It is important that you talk with respect to her elders. Show them you are not rude. Of course they won't give you their daughter if you act rude and yell at them. I suggest you to talk to your parents about this matter and maybe you guys can go over her house and discuss about it. If your parents are with you, it will be good because it demonstrates that you take this seriously. Good luck
2007-11-10 16:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above poster... Fight first and try to talk to her family. They may reconsider and I hope that is the case, if not
then it is possible for you to elope I suppose. Would you be able to support her enough so that the both of you can have a comfortable life? It sounds like she loves you just as much and isn't excited about this marriage. Would she be willing to give up her family to be with you? Will you lover her always and fully enough so she would never regret her decision which may in turn sever her relationship with her family?
If you are able to always and fully love her no matter what, and you're both able to support a comfortable lifestyle then let her know how you feel, and see if she feels the same way. Then run off together and live happily ever after.
I really hope it all works out for you both too! I hope that you're able to have a wonderful and content future together!
2007-11-10 14:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Karen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents fight for her it appears this is the love of your life not just a GF. If you are truly heart broken on this level you need to talk to her and even propose and see what she says who knows maybe she has the same strong feelings for you.
Another reason I hate arranged marriages if it is one thing in life you should be able to choose the person you fall in love with and who you spend your life with.
Have you ever seen most arranged marriages it's like the guy is this ruler and his wife is more his slave then his wife it's pathetic.
Fight for you woman until the parents and she knows your feelings you will lose her. Grow some balls and get moving.
Have you ever thought she is not coming back to you because you gave up so easily to win her love.
2007-11-10 14:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling. My best friend got married shortly after my mom & dad divorced. It's a sad thing to go through but with god's help we made it thru. It will be different . and that's the way it should be. You will always be friends no matter where you're at . Go now and some more friends!
2016-04-03 06:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you. You really care for her tell her tell her everything put your heart on the line. This is an arrange marriage this may not be what she wants too talk to her if bot of you agree talk to her parents tell them how you feel too. Love isn't easy if you want her go for it. I know your probably thinking OMG what if I get my heart broken well isn't it broken now? Good luck go for her *FIGHTING*
2007-11-10 14:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by pinkeypeekaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋