I HAVE 3 YOUNG KIDS AND I WILL BE LEAVING ONCE SCHOOL IS OUT FOR THE SUMMER. HE WILL NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE SO I HAVE TO. CAN YOU LEGALLY SEPARATE IN FLORIDA? HOW LONG IS THE DIVORCE PROCESS? ANY ADVICE WITH CUSTODY ISSUES (HE DOESN'T DO MUCH WITH THE KIDS BUT I WORRY BECAUSE I WANT FULL CUSTODY). ANY ADVICE WILL BE GREAT.
2007-11-10 14:15:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will be ugly and drawn out and will scar your children's hearts, your heart and your husband's heart like nothing ever before. Never forget this. Although you want full custody, your children deserve to have their father in their lives full time, too. Which means that like it or not, your divorce/separation will be ugly and drawn out and will scar your children's hearts, your heart and your husband's heart like nothing ever before.
2007-11-10 14:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Chow Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through exactly the same thing. I live in California though.
I asked my husband to leave the house but he wouldn't. So, I left the house with my kids. He went out of town and when he got back I was gone.
I also have 3 children and my husband didn't do anything with them. So, after I left he wanted to act like he was so great to the kids, but I digress.
I would just tell you to leave and let the chips fall where they may. If he's not really involved in the kids life right now, he probably won't be after you leave.
I believe the process of divorce is a 6 month time period if no one contests it.
I really don't know too much about the custody because my ex hasn't fought me on the subject.
Goodluck!
2007-11-10 14:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get a lawyer.
2. Yes there is a such thing as legal separation.
3. Quit talking in all capital letters.
4. Learn sentence and grammer structure.
5. Get a job.
6. Get used to the fact that your ex will have visitation every thursday, every other weekend, every other holiday, and a month in the summer and you have no say over it.
7. Get used to the fact that joint custody is the norm unless you can prove he is a danger to the kids.
8. Get used to the fact that he can limit where you can move to because you are the one leaving.
9. Get used to the fact that he still gets to have a say in his kids' lives.
2007-11-10 14:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't move out. If he understand laws he can accuse you for kidnapping his kids and you may loose custody of your kids. He has the right to contact the authority and lie on you if you move out unless he want to be free. There are several things however to consider before you make things worse or better for your part. Consider if your marriage is salvageable. List down the advantages and disadvantages of being separated, if it will be for your best interest and that of your kids. If the advanges out weighs the disadvantages, that a tough consideration of you future with yous kids. How will your kids take it? Your financial responsibilities after separation and divorce? etc. Then if all fall in your favor, file for separation first. He will be ordered to move out of the house and find somewhere to stay while paying you to support yourself and your kids. This separation may last 6-12 months before you file for divorce. Its advisable to check out in your states what are your legal rights are when separating before you consider do it. Then the rest will follow
2007-11-10 21:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in florida, have 2 little kids and am going through the same thing! 1st contact a divorce lawyer. where r u in fl? i can lend u mine. he's not in till tuesday. my husband is controlling, and i caught him using drugs and he's been drinking. its a big mess. anyways i had him sign a peice of paper saying that he had 2 weeks to seek professional help and to stop drinking and using, and if he didn't he had to leave, but leave the car, and he had to give me 4,000.00 a month for bills. it might be terrible and really hard now, but once you get a lawyer the clouds will clear. if your husband is incapable like mine he cant get custody. and they check on backrounds, and it also helps to keep a journal, or at least whenever you get into an argument, write the date time and what it was about, the judge reads that. if you need help or anyone to talk to my e-mail is gglc2000@yahoo.com
2007-11-10 14:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, talk to an attorney. You don't want to make things any more difficult than you have to. I live in Florida too and I would suggest that you operate within the law, these guys can be real busters if you don't. Best Wishes!
2007-11-10 14:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please read through this website before filing a divorce. http://www.divorcebusting.com/ There's other websites that can help but I like this the most. You can't trust every therapist. Just a reminder, no one is perfect. He may not be a perfect father. Are you a perfect mother? Everyone has things that they need to change in themselves. I believe you can change people if you change yourself first. I'm not saying your a bad mother, I'm just trying to show you that there's hope for your marriage to become a happy family again. Please if you don't want to do it for yourself and husband.. do it for the kids. The real father is the best father.
2007-11-10 14:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes get an attorney they know what your rights are and what possibly you can do about custody and division of property.
2007-11-10 16:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by James H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you giving up? did you try praying for your marriage? prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives....Jesus loves you
2007-11-10 14:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋