what would you do if you knew your mom only had a short time to live, mine is only 48 yrs old and has so many illnesses and her time is getting short, i dont think i will be able to handle it, i will have to burry her. ive known bout htis for 1 yr now andtime is moving so fast but there is no deffinate time but the doc says could be today or a year from now.
2007-11-10 14:14:26 · 11 answers · asked by deliah182003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how do i prepare myself for this, i have sever depression and pannic attack disorder. its hard enough living but to loose the only parent in my life that held on to me .i cant imagine
2007-11-10 14:15:39 · update #1
Well all you can do is help her live her life to the fullest. Make memories with her. Take a lot of pictures and video of her. Spend as much time with her as you can. Don't treat her as if her life ends tomorrow but tell her all the things that you want her to know so she doesn't or you don't have any regrets when the time comes. Help her with the set up of her own funeral and what she would want. Like songs and headstones and such. I know it sounds weird but at least when the time comes her wishes will be fulfilled. And it won't be so hard for you to know what she would have wanted. And just be supportive to her decisions .
MOST OF ALL, TELL HER YOU LOVE HER. And be there for her
2007-11-10 14:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Wrinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more on your plate than any person should have. I don't know how to answer your question really, except to say chill out.I know that sounds like I am trivialising your situation, bit there is only so much stress a person can take. You can't do anything to make your mum live any longer, so try to enjoy every little bit of time you have and accept the inevitable. I wish I had a magic answer, but I don't.
2007-11-10 22:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom has been passed away for some time now and my dad has cancer. So my advise for you is celebrate life everyday, every minute. Live each day with no regrets being truthful and open. There is no guarantee that you could leave this world before she does. Keep your friends close because you will need them soon.
Take the time you need now because money and things can wait. Life waits for no one and time moves swiftly.
My thoughts will be with you. Take care.
2007-11-10 22:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bonnie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i just want to say how very sorry i am for you and your family. i know things right now may seem unbearable and hopeless. but beleive me i have gone through the same thing and time will heel all wounds.you will make it through this and you will find comfort in knowing your mother is no longer suffering.so be strong and spend every waking moment with your mother and tell her everything you want her to hear because that may comfort her.i know everthing will work out for you just give it some time.
2007-11-10 22:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cherish every moment make a scrap book do everything you can for her, as for your depression and anxiety think of the memories you shared with your mother that should calm you down. last but not least give it all up to God he will never give you more than you can handle and know that your mother will be in a better place soon and would want you to carry on her traditions and love for the family Trust in God and He will always take care of you and be there when you need Him.
2007-11-10 22:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by donna r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never really prepare yourself for something like this. I just went through this 2 yrs. ago. The BEST thing you can do is spend every possible moment you can with her and tell her much you love her. Truely sorry.
2007-11-10 22:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by devine_secrets34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry to hear that. The only advice I have for you is to spend as much time with her as possible. Just in case something does happen you should save up. Hang in there
2007-11-10 22:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Fabuloso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your mom. You should plan a day for just you and her to spend some time together. Go have a spa day, take her out shopping, see a silly movie, and don't forget to take lots of pictures and tell her that you love her.
2007-11-10 22:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel about her. tell her you love her and it will be difficult for you to go on without her but let her know you will do your best to go on. do something with your time to celebrate life and what is good about it. remember the times you supported each other and ask the god of your perception to watch over both you and her. strive to be happy. when you think you cant go on try to remember how far you have come. get someone from a hospice organization to help both you and her. may god bless you today.
2007-11-10 22:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by usman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to spend as much time with your mom as u can...try not to argue w\ her that could be the last time u guys speak together...im so sorry good luck
2007-11-10 22:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by yeahh_buddy23231 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋