geez what is with these girls?

Question

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take a look at the girls who answered this question. especially the one who said "i don't think i'd want to be friends with you". why would anyone not want to be frieds with someone based on the way they look?

and i think it's sick how some girls simply look at a guy as a creep or a "sexual predator" because of the way he looks. i don't think i look much better than that guy... so yeah, how do you think i feel aboutthe fact that girls are probably afraid of me and don't even want to talk to me because of the way i look?

but it's just the way he LOOKS. people can't smile all the time. other guys don't smile and they don't get treated like that. it's shallow and unfair.

i AM NOT the guy in the pic and i DID NOT post the question. i just came accross the question and was disgusted by the answers.

Answer 1

I saw the picture.

The man is handsome, he just seems very sad, they eyes are sad.

The girls comments make me laugh, as real dangerous people are generally charmers.
You are worried about this subject, I know, but remember you will never have real answers in the Internet. You are handsome don't worry, just smile and know as every human being, you are unique, you just have to believe it ;-)

Answer 2

Let's face it, this question really isn't about him at all, it's about you. (So no, I didn't bother to look at the picture. It's not necessary in order to answer this.) Even though you are not the guy who posted the pic or question, you have posted an enormous amount of questions in this forum that show you are looking for someone to back up your own theories regarding the way girls perceive guys...you seem to be very insecure about the way you look. You've posted your own pics more than once, and there's nothing wrong at all with the way you look- you've been reassured by many people, many times, and you still resist believing it. What can we do to help you overcome this insecurity? If girls are afraid to talk to you as you say, it has nothing to do with your looks. It has everything to do with your obsession about your looks...the insecurity you reveal time and time again, and your condemnation toward all women just because someone in your life that you've approached perhaps has rejected your advances. Get over it! Really. I'm not trying to be mean. Rejection is part of life. It's not fun to go through. It hurts. We've ALL been there! And most of the time, we really never know why someone else doesn't see us as attractive. Not everyone you approach will reciprocate your affection or interest. It's just the way it is. You're not alone in that regard. Ask anyone here! If you would stop dwelling on this, and perhaps work on liking yourself, and being less dependent on women to "make you happy", perhaps women will be less afraid to let themselves get close to you. You come across as someone who needs to learn to be happy with yourself, on your own- just as all of us must, before we can be ready to be involved in a healthy way with someone else.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Good point. You can't base a sexual predator on looks alone. I use to do an exercise with teens that came to my outreach classes (domestic violence, rape prevention, etc.) where I would have a number of pictures. Some with good looking guys, some regular guys...just all sorts. I had them guess which ones they thought were the sexual predator(s). They didn't pick any of the good looking men. Of course...it was a trick question...all of the pictures were men that were sexual predators.
Moral of the story: You can't judge a book by its cover.

Some people base their opinions on stereotypes...it stems from ignorance.

Answer 4

He looks really creepy on that picture, everyone is judging by just one photo, maybe if you would of posted more pic's of him with diffrent expressions than you definetely would of got different answers. I don't judge anyone by the way they look, & I myself answered that question & saying I wouldn't want to be friends with a guy that looks so creepy like that. Maybe if you would of posted another picture, than that would be different & I could of said something nicer. Sorry.

Answer 5

It's always a bad idea to post your picture on the Internet asking for feedback. If you get positive feedback, it won't change how you feel about yourself in the long-run. If you get negative feedback (which most people give to make themselves feel better), it will crush you even more. Nothing good can come out of it.

If you're not confident enough with the way you look, don't put yourself out there, because someone will make a negative comment and it will make you feel bad. You make yourself an easy target for criticism. It's like getting in a bikini and going on Howard Stern's show.

EDIT: Hero, I know the picture is not you. I have seen how you look and you have the most gorgeous eyes. as I told you over private emails, I think you're just going through a phase that we have all gone through in our teenage, early 20s. I didn't have a date for my high school prom, so go figure :) Just concentrate on yourself, getting good grades, building yourself up and your confidence...don't worry about their validation for now...because they will be all over you in a few years if you concentrate on yourself and not obsess about your looks (which by the way is perfectly fine). I wouldn't give girls that much power, they have more insecurities than you could ever think of too. And you can email me anytime sweetie.

Answer 6

Flat affect and the mile-long stare often creeps people out. If he were smiling, I can GUARANTEE there'd have been a different response.

EDIT

i could post different pictures of myself taken on the same day and get radically different responses based on my expression.

Probably very few (if any) women would say, "He's hot!" But a few would say, "He's kinda cute." Some would say "He looks awfully young, is he really 35?"

But my expression would determine whether they'd say, "He looks really creepy" or "He looks very intelligent", "He looks really sad, maybe depressed", or "He looks like he's probably really sweet, he has kind eyes".

Answer 7

I don't get why she posted it. Couldn't get him to touch her with a ten foot pole, I presume! I don't think he's a bad lookin' young guy. He's got beautiful eyes. He didn't look creepy to me. He just didn't want to smile at the person holding the camera. Probably the inept chick who posted his pic!

Answer 8

he looks kinda like a friend of mine. Culturally, we are taught to be superficial, despite our parents and educators trying to suggest otherwise. We are surrounded by advertisements and media that present certain "types" as looking a certain way. when you get older and more mature you sometimes grow out of the habit of defining people based on their looks, but not everyone does. Most of us learn evetually that we are only working with outdated and innaccurate information. The ones who dont are not even worth dealing with.

Answer 9

I disagree with judging people on their appearance alone.. But what you've done is you've ASKED people to judge him on how he looks, and now you're complaining when they've done so. What're they supposed to do, judge him on his personality that they know absolutely nothing about?

He could've given off a better impression if he were smiling. In pictures, it really helps with appearance. His looks alone are fine, he's handsome.. But I can see where the "creepy" vibe comes from-his facial expression.

Answer 10

He looks like a normal guy. You can't really judge someone by a picture, if that's what you're getting at, so why post it in the first place?