If a man has a very bed relationship (or none) with his mother, does that mean he will be a bad husband?

Question

I grew up with the adage that a way a man treats his mother is how he will treat his wife (in regards to respect). So, I am wondering if you think that a man that hates his mother, or has no relationship with her, if he will be a poor choice for a husband.

Answer 1

I believe that a good relationship with your mother,forms the basis for your inter action with partners in the future, But if you have a bad relationship with your mother does not mean that you will not be able to be in a successful relationships. All women and men should be aware that people give out red flags. That you must consider before becoming to involved with an individual, Being overly jealous is a surefire red flag that there will be problems in the future. Most people carry a little jealousy, which is normal.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Based upon how he treats his mother alone, no. Take a case where his mother slept around, made his father's life miserable, let the house go until it was filthy with trash, then he might hate his mother. On the other hand, if his father was abusive to his mother he may just be continuing the tradition and the answer would be yes, that he would be a poor choice for a husband. In either case, the way to find out is discussions and talking to each other perhaps even before love is involved and counseling before any marriage.

Answer 3

Absolutely not true! My hubby's bio mom was married to a man that beat the crap outta him and rather getting out of there she shipped my hubby to a shelter home. His relationship has not been a close one with his mom but he is a terrific husband and about the best dad that any child could ever have. He loves us so much and is a man that tresures his role as husband and dad, and treats me and our 3 girls like we hung the moon and the stars. We have been married for 15 years and I look forward to at least 65 more!

Answer 4

I have a friend, who is married to a man who has no relationship with his mother. HIs mother actually hates him too. Its sad. He loves my friend to death, and treats her very well. My husband hated his mother for years when he met me, and he respects me more than his mother. He cant stand her. But he loves me , respects me, and always wants to be with me. Its very different to what most women are use to. Women who have been married find it odd that my husband seems so great...but its how you approach it. I dont dwell in pain. My husband cheated on me once, and that was when we first dated, and were only 18 years old, but we grew up. He didnt really cheat on me, we were on a break. we both dated other people at that time, so its not really cheating, but...anyway...if he loves you, it has nothing to do with his mother. nothing. My uncle loves his mom, and obeys her every request, but when it comes to his wife, he cheats on her, and basically treats her like crap. I think a spoiled boy will be disrespectful, and the one who was not spoiled will be the good respectful type. but thats just what ive seen. so obvously its just a myth, and really depends on the person, not their relationship with their mother.

Answer 5

That is not necessarily true. She could be an awful person that he does not want to be around. She could have abused him when he was younger. She could have spent his inheritance left to him by someone else. It could be a lot of things. Do not jump to the conclusion that he is the one with the problem. Give him a chance and see how he treats you. If his mother treated him so bad he might treat you better than normal. Do not go with assumptions of other people. Have you asked him why he hates her?

Answer 6

No I do not think he will make a bad husband. You have no idea what has brought him to that relationship with his mother but since it is so bad, it is likely that he will do everything in his power to make his marriage and his being a father different.

Good Luck

Answer 7

i hate my mother and in fact i hate my entire family but that is because my parents were nothing but abusive and controling. its not really fair to judge him on his relationship with his mother maybe she is a b**** like mine was, my wife says im absolutely perfect i know she is lieing but i am definately not anything like my parents.

Answer 8

Remember this man came from a woman and if he has no respect for this mother than what makes you think that he respects you. i wouldnt chance wasteing my time with someone like this.
Than again it is your choice.

Answer 9

Yes, there is a direct correlation between how a man treats his mother and how he treats his wife.

Answer 10

Seriously. Theres no reason 2 be with a man that hates his mother. If he cant respect her then he cant respect you. Thibk about your parents in that situation.