Should I leave or stay?

Question

We've been married for 17years. We have two children together, We live in some house. but we were living separate room.Now we decieded working thing out, but we find out the woman who was sleeping with my husband is pregnant. He said he still want to fix our marrige but takes sometime. Should I leave or stay ?

Answer 1

if u were to decide to stay this other woman and child to be will be in his life always, can u emotionally handle this? if he wants to fix the marriage he will have to prove it to u by his actions as words are cheap and mean nothing at all. personally for myself i would not be able to stomach any cheating at all much less a child from his betrayal, as it would be a constant reminder that he chose someone else over me. my ego would just be too damaged. and what if he cheats again? will it destroy u emotionally and cause u even more hurt. why deal with it and wonder if he will leave u for her. he did make a choice he could have taken a different road here, if he had problems with u why couldn't he have come to u and discussed it before bringing another woman into the marriage bed.

Answer 2

Hello I always try and find out more about the situation before I give advice.And i also know it is hard to give the entire information.You don't say how long there was a break down in the marriage and how long you had pretty much been living separate lives.Did you know he was having an affair during that time.You know every sitiuation there has been someone eles that has encountered the same thing and it worked out for them and then another it did not work.Do you love him? When the both of you had talked about giving your marriage another try did he tell you he still love you? 17years is a long time. I know you have been handed a heartache and i feel so bad for you.Maybe the two of you should talk again set a time limit and work like mad to try and mend your marriage.It does not mean you are weak it really means you are strong and when the time limit has expired and you send him away then you know you gave it your best and have no regrets.You have the children why should you leave. I hope with all my heart that this works out for you and your children. You are not alone people care good luck to you.

Answer 3

Sounds like to me that when you were just living together i will say he didnt even have the decency when he was sexing this other woman to make sure she wouldnt get pregnant no kind of way was total slap in the face after he disrespected you by cheating. And now theres an innocent baby made from all this - it really is a shame. And if you have a daughter maybe she'll think its okay to stay with someone who cheats on her- or if a son he will think its ok to cheat. The time to leave would be now cuz he showed the disrespect towards you the day he started cheating. Now whos to say he wouldnt end up sleeping with her again... She'll always be around some way now from the baby. But look inside your heart and only you know how strong you are to handle your situations.

Answer 4

Sounds like he has been in charge a bit too long already. His decision making does not seem to be doing real well for your family at this point. Step back, get the hell away from him and the situation. Get out of the insanity the best you can. If your marriage is meant to be you need more than a "fix" from him. You need to decide what you want and get some space between you and this guy. I would've been long gone way before this, what more do you need to see it is no longer working? You can't put spoiled milk back in fridge and hope it will be fresh tomorrow. Got to make complete change, get your life in order without him and then see if he fits in any longer, you may be surprised what you find. You sound very codependent on him.

Answer 5

Sweetie, I'm sorry this sounds like a rough situation. No one can really speak for you but I know if I were in that situation I'd walk away. Starting over is hard but do you want to have this other child from another woman rubbed in your face every day? It will feel like an open wound. If you think you can live with that then I say stay and go for fixing it, but I just knw I personally would walk away.

Answer 6

Why would you stay? Obviously he's on the brink of starting something new with this new woman he's been seeing off to the side. It doesn't seem like he's too concerned with your marriage if he's getting some other woman pregnant. And, because he's the baby's father, if you continue to be with him, he really can't just blow her off, he's going to be the father of her child. So now not only do you have him in your life, you will have her. Do you really need that many people involved in your marriage? I say cut ties with him as quickly as possible, as much as reasonable for your children, I guess.

Good luck.

Answer 7

i think if he really wanted to fix your marriage he wouldnt of been sleeping with a women that would let herself get pregnant. if you try to work it out you have to remember it will always be 4 in your relationship.. the girl and her child. and you and him.. he will always have to deal with her and now hes got a child he will have to care for also. my question is do you want all that and if you do are you willing to put it all behind you because you cant throw it up in his face everytime you get pissed at him.. and it will be no fault of the childs who its parents are. can you live with his child knowing its from another women.. if you cant then you need to tell him its over.. if you can handle that then you need to love this child also and want nothing but the best for it as you do your own. good luck

Answer 8

If that happened to me id get out while the gowings good! Your husband will be up for child support and axess with this lady. Do you really want to go through that for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

leave that assss wipe now once a cheater always a cheater

take the money and kids and leave honey staying will do you no good with all the child support he'll have to pay what a jerk you deserve better

Answer 10

Tell him to go live with his pregnant girlfriend. The house should be yours to raise the kids in. He needs to leave.