So many times I see cases of marriages broken by cheating spouses. I hear about the other woman, or man ( as the case may be) destroying 'our' marriage.
Do people really distrust their spouses that much? Are people really that insecure?
I would think that if your spouse truly loved and respected you, they would turn down ANY advance, by ANYONE. Regardless of ANY circumstances. So, if that spouse says YES to the advances, why is it the other party who is to blame? Everyone has the right to say NO. We are not defenseless baby springboks being taken by a hungry lion. The spouse is the one who has made a solemn promise, not the other party.
I would trust my wife to say NO.
I would trust myself to say NO.
Surely anyone who convinces you spouse to say YES, is doing you a favor by opening your eyes to the person you really married instead of the person you thought you married.
Even if this person knows that your spouse is married and pursues them anyway. Your spouse has the last word. NO!
2007-11-10 13:27:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Exactly - Personal responsibility is key in any relationship or life!
2007-11-10 13:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. if marriage is fine, there won't have any "other party". Most of times, the cheating spouse makes a move first to other party because there are some problems in their marriage. It is not fair to blame other party because they get nothing from their cheating partner when their man decided to go back home with their wife. What they got is heart broke and be a target to be blame for breaking someones family which it has already problems in their marriage. I feel for the other party and wife/husband, but not for the cheating spouse. They are selfish and will never working on their relationship and keep their commitment. They will never satisfy to stay with only one person, and they will leave their spouse/partner if they found something new again.
2007-11-10 14:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because it is the charged political atmosphere that allows those in power to keep raping the country. Why a two-party system in the U.S.? Why not three, four, seven, eight? The choices are kept to a minimum because in the end, politicians are all really the same party. It's all an act and they deserve Oscars.
2016-04-03 06:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although we are not perfect as some may say. You don't just happen to be in a bed room when the affair happens!
At some point along the way to the meeting place their has to be some thing inside telling us "THIS IS NOT RIGHT". So affairs do NOT "just happen" it is a conscientious decision. Some of us chose not to listen to our conscience.
I am glad to see I am not the only one that still believes in free choice. We are not animals and can make the decision to cheat or not!
2007-11-11 00:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the other person knew they were married and took advantage of problems in a marriage to advance themselves, and get the unhappy spouse to leave they are equally to blame. we always trust out spouse to say no but sometimes they don't and the other person takes advantage of problems in a marriage to get them to leave their spouse so they can have a life like they think the spouse had. yes the spouse who left had a choice but chances are if not for the presence of the other person they might have considered staying and working out the problems had the other party not attached their selves and pursued the spouse. some people take advantage of certain situations in a marriage to better their life and get what they don't have in life at the expense of another.
2007-11-10 13:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I 100 % percent totally agree with you! I hate it when the other person is called a homewrecker, it wasn't the other person that destroyed the home it was the cheating spouse and when a woman says someone stole her man,What did the other woman do? Hold a gun to his head and said "Shhh...get in the bag, I'm taking you"? I trust my husband to make the right decision and he trusts me. We value our love and our family and would never do anything to hurt that...EVER! When my hubby and I were dating I told him that if he ever decides to leave me for another woman I will not fight her...It will be him that I would be angry with.
2007-11-10 13:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by bella s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The other party is to blame. It's just that the cheating spouse is to blame as well. And depending on the other party's knowledge of the martial status of said spouse, then they may or may not be to blame more than the cheating spouse. But regardless, both of them are to blame.
2007-11-10 13:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not exactly sure I see your question because it reads more like a statement of fact, but I do agree with you.
No one can be responsible for breaking up a marriage but the two people in it.
Good Luck
2007-11-10 13:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by mn lady 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have to respect your opinion. However, I would like to remind you that all human beings are not created to be perfected. We are only human beings and no matter how disciplined you are and faithful to your religion, our minds and our hearts are not protected to think otherwise. There is no perfect human being. There is no perfect family. Nobody can say he/she is more disciplined and can able to ease himself/herself from temptations. Our mind sometimes changed you don’t know what comes next and sometimes we can not understand our heart’s dictation even we are already marriage and committed to our spouse, sometimes, we are fooled and love again. This vulnerable mind sometimes comes to change specially when a spouse felt down or have the feelings of being neglected by his/her spouse then by looking another one shoulder to rely on. For instance when a husband had emotional stresses due to work related matters or financial problems affected him his works at home. He felt tired and not knowing his obligation to his family and wife neglected. Worst is when heated arguments exchanged because husband became irrational and lost his tenderness and respect to his wife. So sometimes fighting between spouses can not be avoided.
When fighting of spouses became serious and no early talk to reconcile the differences due to each other’s pride, one spouse looks to someone to sympathy. Mutual conversation of two opposite sex not attached to each other and discussing each other’s problem leading to open a kind of affair. This happened when a spouse felt being neglected by his/her partner or broken down emotionally, then he /she had to look for another person to talked to. What these friendship of opposite sex found later due to understanding of each emotional feeling, they had to falling in love lead to an extra-marital affair if the two or one of them is married.
Many extra marital-affairs were happened intentionally or not. The simple reason is because we are only human. We are not like computer machines that what have been program, that's only we have to do.
2007-11-10 14:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
what you are saying but in reality in a situation like this it takes two so the other party is to blame also maybe just not as much as the spouse is
2007-11-10 13:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋