Why the wall between Love and Hate is so fragile ?

Answer 1

I guess the simple answer to why the division line between love and hate is so easily crossed, is because we are human. We are emotional beings, and though our intellectual or rational capacity should compel us to choose love over hate, since love is more productive, our visceral compulsions, frequently override our rationalism, since it stems from our biology, and thus we are given to irrational impulses, and sometimes these impulse manifests itself in the form of hate.

To elaborate further, love is hard to sustain, because the objects of our love (i.e. other human beings) are fraught with many shortcomings that negate the very things we found lovable about them. A man can find a woman worthy of loving because of her profound mind, only to find out latter on that she acts impetuously. A woman can fall in love with a man because he is charming, only to be spurned from loving him when she finds out that he uses those charms to be unfaithful with her.

Human beings are fickle, and our behavior is transient. Since love is induced for another person, by finding certain behavior characteristics in that person worth loving, once those behavioral norms change, or turn out to be something else, hatred is invoked to supplant the sentiments of love. So, in some sense love and hate exist on a continuum, constantly trading between one and another.

Answer 2

I'd rather ask, why do so many people believe that it is? Love is the antithesis of hate. Love does NOT by some convoluted thinking, "turn into" hate. This is like the same misguided philosophical premise that one can only know joy from having experienced pain. Love turning into hate is an excuse for error, for lack of perception, for personal failure. It is hate of self, projected on another. The connection between love & hate is a myth. Psychologically & philosophically unsound.

Answer 3

It really isn't, at all. Loving someone, (not being IN love), is understanding, compromise, mutuality. As difficult as that is for most people to wrap themselves around. This doesn't mean that people who have loved each other won't necessarily grow into different, & incompatible directions, & acceptance is the only rational choice.
Those who have been "betrayed," or discover horrid things about the other, never loved wisely at the start. Hate is then a subconscious projection of one's anger at themselves.
That's it in a nutshell.
Love & hate ARE emotions; the distinction between the two is that hate is ALWAYS a self destructive emotion.
You'll get no psycho-babble from me about "thin lines" & dualities, etc.

Answer 4

We live in a world of opposites, a world of duality--this is called the relative field where everything, every perception arises from the sense of separation. The ego-personality is driven by the non-stop chatter of the mind, swinging from one extreme to the other constantly. She loves me, she loves me not; I'm hot, I'm cold; life sucks, life is great; he's mean, he's considerate; work is boring, work is satisfying; etc. These polarities are a given in the relative field of existence. Love can turn to hate in an instant, or hate to love if the circumstances are just right--but its all in the mind, in our perception of a situation. although the situation itself just is (a "fact," so to speak, that our mind has interpreted based on our mood at that moment). So the fragility to which you refer is solely based on the mind's interpretation of a factual, static event. This interpretation arises out of the ego-mind that is often a runaway train, unstoppable. The only solution is to begin to observe this ego-mind (that we think is real) and see the nonsense and mischief it creates. This is best done through the practice of meditation, or coming into silence where the mind can be seen for what it is...once the mind is calmed the false self can be deconstructed and one's true nature revealed. Then opposites will have no meaning, for one will see the oneness of everything, rising out of the limiting, separating relative field of duality into the Absolute field where only One exists. I am Sirius

Answer 5

Great question!

The wall that creates love and hate is the heart. The two most important opposing poles are rooted greatly in the emotional feeling invested by a person. The heart has its reason of his own which the mind may not understand. That's why it is the deepest sensitive feeling of a person. The fragility of the two opposing factors is so immense that utmost care must be given due care.

Thanks for asking. Have a great day!

Answer 6

The mind has created love and hate .The mind is so volatile that it can take any form to various stimuli.The mind cannot be trusted that is why it is told that we have to go beyond mind .And the mind is dependent on so many factors like food,situation,old beliefs with so many limitations the wall ought to be fragile.

Answer 7

Most of the time what is meant by love is really attachment.

The difference is enormous, yet they are often confused, and sometimes mixed up with each other. Love is " I want you to be happy" and attachment is " I want you to act in a certain way to make ME happy ".

From the point of someone who acts in a way to not make ME happy, there is little distance to blame and then even less to hatred. So until we are clear about our own feelings, much less our willingness to blame others for not acting how we think they should to make ME happy, hatred will continue to seem inscrutably close to love.

If we really wish others to be happy, that's at least as far from hatred as indifference, as mentioned by previous responders.

Another common misconception is that love is a feeling.
Love is not a feeling, it is an ability, sometimes a decision, sometimes a commitment, always an action. So too is hatred an interior action, although strong negative feeling usually accompanies the action it is not necessary to feel anything if you hate someone.

Please think about these things. Our vapid, gutless society hands us a lot of crap about such basic elements of our humanity. It takes some doing to undo the nonsense.

Good Luck,

;-)

Answer 8

All I know is that YOU have to CHOOSE ONE!

Even when you may consider it an impossible love _, you may choose LOVE and manage it by your soul, some way to pass it on. All you have to do - I know it for sure - is to be truthful with yourself. One way has (must have) NO coming back, if you are truthful.
The same with the HATE, I presume you'll not come back to LOVE if you take hate within you !?!?!? ???????????
Life_is

Answer 9

Actually, it is love and fear. Now you know where hate comes from. After all the fear, there is only love.

Answer 10

i guess because these two are extreme emotions and yet you don't feel the other one if you don't feel the opposite. both has a strong quality, and only indifference thickens the wall. i guess both are living and breathing empotions, while indifference is as cold as an iceberg. =)