Confident & Positive thinking?

Question

For those that are known to be confident and brush off negativity...how do you do it? Like in your head, how the hell you let those thoughts just disappear? And keep on smilin'? I need to know your secret :)

Answer 1

What's negative??? Even if someone means something to be negative it really isn't, it is a way to improve myself, that is all. When life throws everything at me at once, it isn't negative, it is only making me stronger, and so that I will have something to look back on and laugh at.

Better still,,,,Why would you let things bother you? If you could change them you would, therefore you just have to make the best out of what you can not change. Keep smiling. You only get one shot at this life.....(I'm still trying to figure out how to get out of the world alive)


PS--- The real answer is ---- Having a sense of humor...plain and simple,,,humor in everything..

Answer 2

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Answer 3

As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, I can tell you that there are as many "remedies" or "solutions" as stars in the sky. You'll need to focus on whichever star "sounds best" to you, and "go with it". Two observations I have made over the years are these:
1) You need to be able to block out "unhappy" thoughts, and oftentimes they are the thoughts that hit you closest to home. It takes a bit of shallowness, if you will, but it is somewhat productive in that it allows you to come back to a thought or issue later, when you feel stronger.
2) M. Scott Peck, M.D., a renowned psychiatrist, wrote in his most popular book "The Road Less Traveled" (1978) that individuals need to develop the capacity to "bracket" their thoughts, for much the same reason I have named above.
Either way requires mental dexterity over uncontrolled emotional roller coaster rides throughout your life. It's not really a secret. Just some people haven't heard it, or have actually chosen not to use the tool since it didn't "feel" right. It's your choice: be controlled by your feelings or control them. God Bless you. Oh, and that brings up a third "remedy", and maybe the best one (I oftentimes save the best for last.). God, through prayer. God Bless you, again.

Answer 4

I cant say that I am the most confident person, however the reason i'm responding, is I relate to you. I, like a lot of other people I know call these feelings racing thoughts. Especially when i'm trying to sleep. I think the best thing that works for me is I think real hard about my husband, or daughter, or any good thing in my life at the time, and run that over and over in my head. I hope I am not wasting your time with my answer, but this happens to me all the time, so I constantly think of solutions. I don't know if this is against the rules or not but if you want to email me and talk that way, here goes:

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My name is becky, by the way

Answer 5

I like to begin by always saying I am not a professional, and with these matters you should really speak with someone who might be more educated in this like a counselor, personal growth motivator, or a life coach.

For me personally. I've had to learn what being "positive" really means. Being positive is not just grinning and saying "Oh well, I cracked my ribs, my boyfriend left me, but I'm smiling!"

There is a story about a King who asked for words of comfort that would always be true to be inscribed on a ring. These words were:

This too shall pass

Being positive is understanding to get that fresh new cup of coffee you have to dump out the old from our cup, and clean the mug. It's understanding that while we cannot control the world around us, we can control our reactive nature. We can rise above circumstance, and in that we gain strength. That is positivity.

Answer 6

I am VERY positive I am told. I dont' always think I am, but I am told that I am one of the most positive people that others have ever met. All I do is when I have a negative thought I say in my head , 'now that is a interesting point of view, personally I think.... (insert what you want to think about here)'. Or if I fear soemthing like 'What if I go into coma and I see my parents raising and messing up my kids because i can hear everything that goes on? (for example, lol)' When I have a fear I will counteract it with 'OR, what if that doesnt' happen?' and that takes me back to the moment. Once you counteract enough, the negative thoughts end up retreating

Answer 7

Thinking positively is so important. I used to be so negative. However, it took a lot of practicing and self talk in order to change a lot of my negative thoughts. Another thing that really helped me w/ my negative thoughts was Joel Osteen- not sure if you know who he is but he is a minister who strongly emphasizes positive thinking. He has books that you can read- which really gave a big boost to my thinking process. I must say I still have negative thoughts that I am working on; it's not always easy but the more you keep confronting those thoughts and changing them around- you'll see a definite positive change eventually. It's worth it. Good luck to you- it will happen for you.

Answer 8

could be the two. yet there could be many stuff on earth and in the Universe that are only impossible to realize by utilising mere mortal beings. there's a decrease as to how we are able to handle mild, journeys to distant planets or galaxies,development great-platforms or automobiles, accomplishing international peace n team spirit,generating greater effective than sufficient foodstuff/gasoline/helpful products,and so on,and so on. yet to motivate and motivate some human beings, it rather is often had to apply the word, esp once you're able to management. This develop into how great pyramids, partitions have been outfitted and battles fought -- even nonetheless on the price of suffering and countless deaths. So the word can often produce magic and help us to persevere to realize doubtless impossible objectives.

Answer 9

I bet it's more than one technique. I took a course called "The Silva Method" and they emphasized positive thinking. If you ever get to watch a TV show called: "The Hour of Power" watch how much positive faith is encouraged. We have to take our thoughts by the horns. We have to listen to what people say. Some really negative people you need to avoid.

Answer 10

well for me if I do something I'm not proud of, I just remember that we are all human and everyone makes mistakes. I always remember I'm a good person trying to do the right thing. You need to have a high selfesteem. If you don't believe in yourself who else is going to? Why should anyone else believe in you if you can't even do that for yourself? It's all about your self esteem and if you have a high self esteem if someone says something about you you don't let it get to you that much because people area always going to talk no matter what!