my girls are 8 1/2 and 9 1/2, the teen years are comming up so I thought I would ask those of you with experience what to expect as far as like attitude and stuff.
2007-11-10 11:41:42 · 11 answers · asked by pumpkin2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 18 and just moved out of my house. I think my mom did a great job with me thru my teen years and my little sister just turned 12, so she will be going through it again. First of all, just be patient. Your girls will get mouthy (trust me, even my sister who never said anything wrong in her life suddenly got a smart mouth). Also, be strong. Dont give in just because "everyone else is doing it." My aunt did that to her teenagers and her daughter is now 13, pregnant, with three tattoos. Make sure you don't stop them from seeing their friends...if they want to go out after school and their homework is done, don't keep them home just because "you say so." It's a crucial time in their lives, they will need to see/talk to their friends every night so they can talk about the cutest boys and all that stuff. I'm sure you'll be fine, it's difficult I'm sure, but my mom did a great job and the second I moved out, I realized she was right about a lot of things and she is my best friend.
2007-11-10 11:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no guarantees as to how the teenage years will affect your children, as some are moody, some lazy, etc, but the one thing you can do now to make those years a bit more bearable, is to give your children a sound upbringing, with love and compassion and be easy for your children to talk to!
Your children should be taught to love, respect and be considerate of others!
Make your children aware of the dangers of drugs, smoking, drinking and sex, especially unprotected sex!
If they are armed with this information, there is a lot less chance they'll do anything stupid, but of course, there is no guarantees!
You'll at least know that you have done your best for them and the rest is down to them!
If they know you are there for them they should come good in the end!
I hope this helps!
2007-11-10 20:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Watsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your children were raised properly without too many "mind in the gutter" ideas or experiences, they should turn out fine. Sure, they will learn deeper truths about life in their teens, but, if they have shown self-control, they will not have a problem. Keep a look out for internet behavior, erratic grades, and odd "outings". Don't worry too much, most teens end up fine.
2007-11-10 20:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by The Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you started disciplining them while they were young and teaching them right from wrong they you shouldn't have alot of problems with them. Many teens who act out now is a result of poor discipline, and parents who let their little ones get away with little and big infractions of house and family rules. I have raised one teenage boy and two foster sons and am now raising my daughter. Trust me start now and it will help them know what is acceptable and what isn't.
2007-11-10 19:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have good communication with your girls now, always keep that line open(for anything).
Give them space, but always know when, where and how.
Set guide lines and rules and stick with it.
They will want to spend more time with their friends.Alot of time on the phone.Dances, and games.
Possibly a "Myspace" page.
Cell phones and instant messaging.
It's all okay.Just always make sure they know who's in charge.
2007-11-10 19:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by jitterbug6704 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lot of short temper ... growing teens have that often ... but at the same time they have more understanding for the parent .. their hard work and their efforts ... i would say they learn more if guided the right way.
Good luck parenting.
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2007-11-10 19:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by BIBA I 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Expect everything and hope for nothing. Each child is different so you really never know how it go.
2007-11-10 20:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just know, your kids always love u no matter how oldtheyare. change of time and atitude cant alter love. ur kids will be fine, just give them space. remember, the harder you pull, the harder they will pull away.Hey, i know what its like. i act like i dont care, cuz sometimes it makes me feel more powerfull when i'm in demeanin situations.
2007-11-10 19:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by witchwoman101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know what they might be like
just make sure you give them privacy, respect their ideas, try to keep mother daughter time with them (even if its only once a week)
2007-11-10 19:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
moody
long time in bathroom
many hair make-up products
2007-11-10 21:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by kelly <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋