Are you born gay or is it a choice? Please expain your answer.?

Answer 1

The simple answer to this question, at least the one that I use is this.." I chose to be gay the same way you chose to be straight".
Unless a person is gay, they cannot answer this question truthfully. How can someone who is straight even begin to know whether or not I was born gay? I know that I have always been gay and believe that I was born this way. The only "choice" involved is whether or not to "act" on those feelings. Society can be so homophobic and fearful that it is easier to cast homosexuality aside as an illness, abomination or just plain unnatural behaviour. Being gay does not give me the right to bash hetrosexual people because they "choose" to be straight, nor does being straight give anyone the right to gay bash.
If you want to be accepted, you first have to be accepting. Be careful who you hate... it may be someone you love......

Answer 2

We're born this way. The gene cluster responsible for homosexuality has been found on the X chromosome. Along with that, the part of the brain that controls sexuality has been definitively found to control orientation as well. Please feel free to read the books I sourced for explanations...

You hear people say "theories" so often because most don't even know that proof is out there. The rest refuse to believe the facts because their own predisposed beliefs say otherwise, this however doesn't negate that it's proven fact.

"The Science of Desire: The Gay Gene and the Biology of Behavior" by Dean Hamer (explains the gene cluster causing homosexuality and how it's passed on [cluster Xq28 found on the X chromosome])

"Queer Science: The Use and Abuse of Research into Homosexuality" by Simon LeVay (explains how the parts of the hypothalamus control orientation… and also reviews a lot of other orientation research that has been done)

...by the way these aren't "theories" they're proven and certified by the American Psychology Association http://www.apa.org and the American Psychiatric Association http://www.psych.org

Answer 3

Both. If you think of sexuality as being a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being really straight 5 being bi-sexual and 10 being really gay, the closer I am to 5 gives me the opportunity to sleep with a man at least once, even though I am straight, and, in the inverse, the further I am from 10, the less likely I am to sleep with men.

The choice comes when exclusivity is enforced by society on those 4, 5, and 6 bi-sexual, who must "chose" gay or straight, and that is where the confuse lays.

Answer 4

Born gay.

Scientific researchers who specialize in human sexuality have shown that homosexuality is linked to biology and genetics.

An October 2004 scientific research publication stated that scientists have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men & that this fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation; a 2005 study reported genetic scans showing a clustering of the same genetic pattern among gay men on three chromosomes; a study published in Human Genetics in February 2006 found extreme differences in X chromosome inactivation in mothers of gay sons and mothers whose sons were not gay; and another 2006 scientific study found that a man's likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers even if gay men were raised away from their biological families.

Answer 5

It is my personal belief that one's sexual orientation is determined differently than anothers.

I think some people are born gay. It's been proven that there is in fact a gay gene. But the theory of how it works is not yet advanced enough. I personally have been very butchy since I was in the third grade, and I came out when I was in the fifth. I mean...I think everyone's different.

Some people never receive any love from a masculine, or feminine source, or they are raped, or suffer some kind of traumatic experience that alters their way of love.

And in some cases, I think people do get sick of dating one gender, and choose to be loved by their own.

Answer 6

In most instances a person is born gay. There have been studies in gay men that show particular hormone levels are higher than in straight men. Many people try to convince themselves that they are straight when in fact they are gay. In a small percentage of people they have claimed to have "turned gay" because of some traumatic experience, but in my opinion they were just denying the truth to themselves.

Answer 7

I would have to say that it possibly occurs before you are born.

One way or another, homosexuality occurs as part of the normal development process for some people. As adolescents, a common theme in our lives was the discovery of the sexual nature of humanity. In the same way we discovered everything else, we discovered that our attractions pulled us toward the same sex. Its not something we consciously seek out, because when we are developing, we don't know to seek anything out. Our instinct simply pulls us in the right direction.

The choice does not lie in whether or not to be attracted to something. Instead, it lies in accepting those attractions as a regular part of your being.

Homosexuality appears different and strange because society instills static gender roles in all of us, and our attractions violate those norms of society. People take comfort in the concept of the typical outline of life:

1- Find a person of the opposite sex
2- Marry said person
3- Have Children
4- Raise Children
5- Die

It gives them comfort to know that the above outline is exactly the path their life should follow. When someone attempts to suggest that there may be another way, that comfort is violated. From that intense feeling of insecurity is born arguments that marginalize homosexuality in an attempt to dismiss it.

Essentially, people argue that homosexuality is a choice because they are trying to duck and cover from the truth as long as possible.

Answer 8

I think people are born gay. If you're straight, do you have to make yourself be straight or does it come naturally to you? It's a characteristic about yourself, something you can't change. It's kind of like not liking a certain food. If you don't like it, you don't like it. I don't see being gay as a choice.

Answer 9

I was definitely born gay.
No one would choose to be discriminated against, have less rights, and not have a "mainstream" normal family.
I have always had an attraction to men, I just never knew what "gay" was until middle school.

Answer 10

born