anyone else this miserable the second time around?

Question

ok this is my second pregnancy and im 37weeks along. i feel so miserable! yes i know i know its normal and i should hang in there (like i have a choice) but my first pregnancy (my daughter is almost 15 months) was a BREEZE compared to this. i didnt have Braxton hicks (well i didnt feel them i should say) which are becoming very uncomfortable and annoying, i didnt have all this horrible pressure down there and sometimes not only is it painful to work its just about impossible, and i didnt feel this exhausted!!!
i know all this is normal, but for me its like im pregnant for the first time cuz i didnt expect all this.my first it was like i wasnt even pregnant! i know all pregnancies are different, you dont have to tell me that, but my in-laws keep telling me its because my pregnancies were so close together and its harder on my body and thats why im having such a hard time this time around. is that really true,? or is it just simply because its a different pregnancy?

my mother in law is ALWAYS insisting i call the doc to see if im ok since its not like my first pregnancy, everything im experiencing is normal..i already know that. but she is getting on my nerves trying to convince me something is wrong....how do i get her off my back?

Answer 1

My first was a breeze as well! I am on my 3rd and I feel pressure pain, tiered, braxton hicks the whole nine yards. Maybe a part of it is, we never had another child to run after before whom drained all our energy. The first time we had every single minute to ourselves to just take it easy. Not only that, your body has been through the dramatic change of pregnancy not just once but twice now and it can wear you down. Recovery time does kind of matter but even with enough time pregnancy just doesn't seem to be the simple breeze it was to begin with. On a positive note, your labor should be so much more easier and shorter the second time around!

Answer 2

Oh you poor thing! I was exactly like that with my second! It felt so much worse and exhausting and I had 2 1/2 years between the kids! I was miserable and it was the middle of summer too!! I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, it all just sucked!
My braxton hicks second time around started about 32 weeks and were excrutiating to the point of thinking it might be labour, but they would always go away.

I think each and every pregnancy is different but I do think the more pregnancies the harder it is because you already have so much to do with the first child (and in your case a 15mth old is a lot of work!!).
You need to take some time to relax and de-stress. Yoga, movies, dinner date with hubby, girly day at a spa, massage!!!!, anything to give you some relief and take your mind off it.

I am now pregnant with my third (5 1/2 weeks) and already my nausea is heaps worse, I'm so much more tired and I think I am in for a long and exhausting pregnancy.

Good luck and 'hang in there, lol, !! Tell your doctor your concerns and if you need to shed a little tear when you tell him you are miserable and exhausted he might take pity and bring you on early or at least on time.

If it is any consolation my second came earlier than the first by a couple of days so hopefully you won't be waiting too long.

best of luck, oh and ignore your mother in law. she might mean well but if you have to,just say that you need her to help more with the other baby then give you advice right now.

Answer 3

My pregnancies seemed to get worse, with each one! My first was fine, no sickness, a little heartburn, but i could control it if i watched what i ate or drank. My 2nd, i went through the family size bottle of tums every week! it didn't matter what i did, the heartburn was always there. With my third, i laid on the couch for the first three months, till i found an acid medicine that helped. i have never been so sick in all my life. I was sick until i delivered! I remember about an hour or so after she was born, i said "wow i don't feel sick anymore!" it was almost as if the i was allergic to the baby, and when she came out i was fine. She was born normal, as is nothin that i could do about it, that i wasn't doin already. Just a part of pregnancy. My best freind even broke out in rashes all through her last pregnancy. Our bodies just have a hard time copin with everything, from makin room-to hormones, it's alot. Your almost through, i know you don't wanna hear it, LOL. Take some acid pills, but on some relaxing music, and light some candles, then run a warm bath with some epsom salt in it, and it will help. (not cure mind you, lol) but help. And as far as your MIL goes, sound like you need to tell her to STH up! cause especially this far along, the stress that she is causing you is FAR more damaging than anything else! Best of luck sweetie, and try and spend some time just relaxing....then of course there are things you can do to speed things up, i'm a doula, so if you have any more questions, feel free to email me privately. Now go rest sweetie!

Answer 4

Well, on your mother in law side of things tell her its your body, and its your 2nd baby so you would know if anything was wrong. I too felt the same with my 2nd - extremely tired all the time and alot of pressure down there (which is very painful!) With my first I had braxton hicks from 28 weeks but apart from that it was as you say a breeze. I fell preg again just after my 1st babys 1st birthday. Aparently it takes about a year for your body to 'recover' from being preg. I think you feel more tired because you have another child to care for and you say you work? Like you said it is all normal but is very difficult to deal with at the same time. I was very unhappy in my 2nd preg. All you can do is hang in there.
All the best.

Answer 5

you are your own person, and you need to decide if you need to call the doctor or not, you are capable of making that choice, trust me if something was really wrong you would know...

Answer 6

your probly having a boy boys are alot harder to have

thats all i have to say sorry hope i hepled