Well, I am a 16 year old boy, and I am a total loser. I'll just say that cause its true. I hardly have any friends and a lot of people really hate me for no reason. I don't play any sports or do anything fun, just cause I have no motivation to. What should I do to help improve my social life?
2007-11-10 08:59:38 · 12 answers · asked by The_Peacemak3r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like you are having some depression. Get up and go anyway. Get into sports and groups. They probably don't hate you, you just won't be part of the crowd. Go to the youth group at church, go to games at the school, are there any groups to get involved with. You will probably find it more fun than you think. If you keep feeling this was get some counseling, maybe go to the school counselor anyway and discuss it.========
2007-11-10 09:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by lana s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with, stop putting yourself down. Your not a total loser for the simple reason you have a computer that you can use to meet people who would like to help you. Think of other kids in the world who can't even get to use a computer, through no fault of their own. Don't go making high demands on yourself or set your goals too high, just take it in small steps and you will succeed, and to improve your social life, be honest with yourself and with those you want to have as friends, go out to different venues, sport, movies, concerts etc.
Learn by watching those around you, become involved and above all remember you have a computer and have the ability to ask others if they will give you some guidance or want to communicate with you as a friend. Give it a try and you will see things improve in your life. Good luck.
2007-11-10 11:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by mrlonely_solonely_immrlonely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also 16 years old, hate everything that has to do with sports, but I am not a loser and I don't complain about my social life...
Of course there are a lot of kids in my school calling me weird because I don't like or play football, but who gives a damn about them ???!! You must learn to love yourself for what you are !!! Having many friends who love you won't help you feel better, trust me. If you don't love and if you don;t trust your own self, then everything's useful...
My advice to you would be to forget about the people that call you a loser ! They're losers themselves, they just don't know it yet ! You can do fun things by yourself. Grab a book and read, surf the Internet, I dunno... Live your life and stop worrying about the others ! They are not important ! YOU ARE !!!
2007-11-10 09:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by boy_out_of_hell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you know that you are not a total looser.
You sound a little depressed and you should defiantly tell your doctor what you just said here.
It is not unusual to feel like this for a little while -only a little while though .
There will always be some people who do not like you - it is unreasonable to think that you will be liked by everyone.
Hold your head up , be true to yourself , and be the best person that you can be .
Be friendly, pleasant and open. Smile, hold your head up .
Get involved in something you are interested in .
2007-11-10 09:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to find something that your interested in doing and when you do try and find people with the same interest. Your just gonna have to forget the people that hate you because they don't even know you to be able to hate you. They're just being immature, And dude your just cause you keep to yourself doesn't mean a loser. Your life will get better.
2007-11-10 09:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by dani*17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a loser only if you allow yourself to be. You have to give yourself a bit of a nudge & get into something that catches your eye. There has to be at least one thing that interests you, whether you believe it or not. People may dislike you but I doubt that they hate you. Take it a day at a time, & before you know it, you'll have a social life.
2007-11-10 09:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't say that! i would say join small clubs so u can really get to know people. i know everyone says that but it really works. invite people over that you talk to, that way you really become freinds. be nicer to people and maybe try to improve urself. be outgoing, maybe go shopping! just be a better you and make an EFFORT! good luck! don't just sit here and say ur life sux, do something!
2007-11-10 09:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rufus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well go and take part in stuff, make an effort to get to know people from everywhere and hopefully you will get somewhere xxx
2007-11-10 09:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take chances. meet new people. and dont say youre a loser. what you say is what youll be. remember that.
2007-11-10 09:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by zz258 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
GO TO CHURCH, JOIN A DEBATING TEAM, GET A P/T JOB. YOU DON'T NEED ALOT OF FRIENDS, JUST A FEW GOOD ONE'S, CHILDREN CAN BE VERY MEAN,JUST MOVE ON. AND JUST BE YOURSELF!!!!!
2007-11-10 09:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by poopsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋