my friends dad...?

Question

died this morning and i'm trying to comfort her. is there a good poem that anybody knows that i could give her, just something sweet saying i'll be there for her. i'm probably going to give her a bunch of books that i enjoyed, cause that's what i would want.

or maybe even a song. that'd be great too. anything would be helpful

Answer 1

It's hard to comfort someone when a loved one dies. Especially right after the fact. Mostly they want to be sad, and that's a good thing. Mostly you don't have to say anything, you just be there and let them do the talking. Talk if they want to talk, hug them if they want to be hugged. Mostly just join them in their sorrow. You don't have to know how they feel, you can feel sorrow because your friend is feeling sorrow.

Books and a song is a great idea. But I would give it at least a few days.

Answer 2

how about this one?






Friends Poem

Friends Eternal

You're a true friend,
that I want you to know,
Our love for each other
has helped us to grow.
We've been through some tough times,
but we've made it through,
The only one I ever trusted was you.

You helped me through anger,
you've chased away fears.
You held me through sadness,
and kissed away tears.

You stayed by my side
when the world turned away.
You helped me see joy
when the skies were all gray.

You were the rainbow
at the end of the storm.
You help me be different
when I shouldn't conform.

You held my hand
when you knew we would fall.
Every heartache,
you saw me through it all.

I'm not sure
I'm always the best friend to you,
I know I'm not perfect,
but this much is true.

When life gets you down,
And there's nowhere to turn,
I'll help you through and
I'll share your concern.

I'll try my best to return every favor,
When you're sure that you'll drown,
then I'll be your lifesaver;
Even if we both go down.

Whether we sink or swim
doesn't matter at all,
Just know that I'll be there
whenever you call.

I'll pull you out
when life pulls you under.
I'll be the sun
when there's lightning and thunder.

And when it's all over,
And we've fought every war,
There's one thing I promise,
Of this I am sure,
When the time comes
that we're put to our rest.
Be sure that you know that,
My friend, you're the best.

And if there is Heaven,
then I know you'll be there,
That if you die first
then you'll hear every prayer.
And soon I'll join you,
but just know until then.
That I'll miss you each day
'til I see you again.

At the end of the tunnel,
you'll be my guiding light,
You'll lead me to heaven,
away from the night.

We'll be there together,
and we'll never grow old.
And we'll walk hand in hand
On the streets paved of gold.

Answer 3

Poems and songs sometimes help.I gave my friend a poem before, when her father died and it really encouraged her a lot and keep thanking me about it for a week. Just give her the poem and tell her that you will be there for her if she needed to talk.
Here is a nice touching poem i found on line.

God Knows

You have my deepest sympathy,
but it really doesn't help.
your grief goes beyond
what words can express

There's nothing anyone can say,
and nothing we can do
to heal your broken heart
or take away your pain.

Let God take you in His arms
and cover you with His love.
He knows the depth of your grief
and only He can give you peace.
He knows it will take time
for your heart to heal,and
your loved one has a place
that no one else can fill

If there's any comfort let it be in this,
your loved one is with Jesus,
in a home that's filled with bliss.
There are no tears in Heaven,
no more heartache and no pain,
only love and happiness
for all eternity.

We must go on living and
do the best we can,
then when Jesus calls our name
we will be with them again.

Answer 4

You are trying to hard. That is sweet but it is the wrong thing to do. Just be with her, make no demands on her to talk or listen. Just sit with her, make sure she eats and has something to drink. This is the best help anyone can give, you are feeling a little helpless at this moment. That is why you are trying to cheer her up, but you can't and if you keep trying you will seem insensitive to her pain. Don't talk just sit with her, if she wants to hold her hand, if she doesn't want to hold hands don't take it personally. Be quite and just be there. let her cry and be silent while she does.For as long as it takes.

Answer 5

This life I do not understand as we lose those we care about. We have people around us that are there for us and I am one of them. We live through the mistakes and we love thorugh the good times.
There is a life beyond the living body, where the soul is set free. To help you through the rough times think of when you were best at peace.
Know,
Today you are loved
Today you are living through the pain,
I am here for you,
And I will help you rise from the pain, like a phoenix from the flame.

Answer 6

Honestly, the best thing to do is giver her some space, but make sure she knows you are available to listen if she wants to talk about it. IT is sweet that you are trying to do something for her, but sometimes less is more. Finding the "right thing to say" is almost impossible - there is no right thing to say. But being a shoulder to cry on and having an open ear for her to express her feelings to is worth so much in time of grief.

good luck!

Answer 7

I'm so sorry to hear that. My dad died a couple of years ago and we were very close and he was loved by my friends too. One of the things that I really liked about my close friends is that they didn't and don't avoid the subject of my father. We still like to talk about how fun he was and the cool stuff we did together. It doesn't make me sad, it makes me happy and helps me remember that the most important part isn't that he died, it is that he lived. They have no problem saying "hey, remember that time your Dad and us (fill in story). Talking about him at first could make me cry, but it wasn't bad because I was thinking about him anyways. Crying and thinking and talking were important steps to get to the place I am now. Now when I think of my Dad, I smile.

Give her your time, your patience, someone to cry with, and someone to laugh with.

Answer 8

Really , there isn't anything that will comfort your friend right now . If she wants to talk or cry just let her .
There is nothing you can say or give to her that will help .
She needs to grieve .
You may just have to leave her alone for awhile and , understand if she doesn't want to talk. She may seem a little different for awhile - just be there for her when she is ready .
I really like what 'busybody' had to say ---good advice !

Answer 9

Yesterday I told you I would be here still,
Today I hold you, and try to calm your fears.
Everyday that passes, I'm just a call away.
I am here even if you have nothing to say.
No words can say I'm sorry, but you know how much I care
If you need me just look....my friend.....just look and I'll be there




Hope it helps.....just thought of it ..And I am so sorry to hear that

Answer 10

How very sad for your friend, sometime though just by being there quietly is the best medicine of all, just tell her that if she needs to talk or cry, you will be there, and give her a big hug.