Like using a lubricant, a painkiller? I don't know..
2007-11-10 08:39:42 · 7 answers · asked by sportzchick143 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Take lots of time. Make sure you're really wet and ready. If he tries to rush anything, you've got the wrong guy.
Use a condom. Just to make sure, bring your own and practice on a carrot before the special occasion. If you think you'll need a lubricant, make sure it's water-based - vaseline can dissolve holes in a condom.
If you're on top, you have more control over what goes how far, how fast. I've heard that a "Reverse Cowgirl" position is easier for beginners: you on top, his hips between your legs, and facing towards his feet instead of towards his face - but I'm a guy, so I don't know for myself.
Experience at masturbating will help. It will show you what you like to feel, and what to expect from your body. If your play involves fingers or toys in your vagina, that could help you get used to having something inside.
Pick a nice guy, take care of yourself, and have fun!
2007-11-10 10:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tom V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is different for everyone. Some have pain, some take to it like a duck to water. If nothing else, practice a little on your own, fingers or a cucumber works. Also, take your time and a good lube works. First time for a gf of many years ago was a breeze. Have fun and don´t worry.
2007-11-10 08:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-24 00:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(I am assuming this is from a girls perspective).
Before you have sex, it's ok to use lube and use your fingers to slowly widen yourself so you know you can do it. You can use a cucumber or any round, smooth object -but be careful to wash it and make it as clean as possible. The area is very 'fertile'.
Dont let your lover jump right into penetration. He needs to kiss, fondle you so you are aroused. His hands should be clean and you add lube to his fingers and he should slowly penetrate you with one, two or even 3 fingers first. This opens you up so there wont be pain.
He must use a condom. This will make things smooth, the lube wont absorb and for all the usual pregnancy and STD reasons.
If he does it right and gets you excited, the 'pain' will really be pleasure.
2007-11-10 09:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Grumpy Mac 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of lubrication may help becuase there will be less friction and struggle to achieve penetration. It will still probably be uncomfortable, however. I also agree with the poster above, take your time and don't rush yourself. If it just isn't working, then you can wait.
2007-11-10 08:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time should be with someone special and someone you trust to be gentle and patient with you. You need to try and be relaxed and not be pressured into sex. If you really want to have sex your body will prepare itself, you shouldn't need lubricant.
2007-11-10 09:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by crazydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to burst your bubble, but the first time usually (in most cases) is pretty painful. Definately use both lubricant and maybe a pain killer.
Prayer never hurts, and I'm being serious
2007-11-10 08:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Go Blue 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋