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2007-11-10 06:21:09 · 23 answers · asked by Taya L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

i know she is capable. she is just not trying

2007-11-10 16:49:17 · update #1

23 answers

She is 14! Take away priviliges. Computer, phone, TV events... That is the only way to get your point across these days. And make it last a while.

2007-11-10 06:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by nil8_360 6 · 4 2

Don't hit her. That won't make her study harder. If she is doing an activity or working a part time job that is taking away from school make her quit until her grades are improved. But I would give her a chance to improve before any other discipline.

Try getting more involved. Have her show you her homework before she goes to bed. Keep in touch with her teachers so you know when her tests are coming up. Ask the teachers if there is extra credit or extra projects available that will help her learn the things she was struggling with.

Offer to help her study. If her grades don't improve by the next semester you might want to consider giving a consequence (like taking away phone privleges).

If she is honestly trying, you might need to consider getting a tutor or testing for learning difficulties.

Kids will always respond better to help than to hitting. Even if she acts like she doesn't care, she'll be more likely to work harder if she has something to look forward to rather than a punishment.

2007-11-10 06:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly J 4 · 0 0

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2016-10-16 00:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by lumley 4 · 0 0

First of all, please do not punish her! Here are some suggestions of things you could do;

1) Find out if something on her mind is distracting her. Is her friend hurt? Are any of her friends pressuring her into doing something she doesn't want to?

2) Has she been lower than average for most of her life? If not, ask her questions, like in suggestion 1. But if she doesn't want to tak, please do not force her to or blow your top, or else she will restrain from telling you anything anymore.

3) Talk to her teachers. Do they see something wrong with her daily behavior?

4) Study with her. Take the time to study with her, and if she has a test, make a fun way to study (like flashcards, Math Bingo, English spelling bee [also use prizes and praise her for her improvement] )

Hope I helped!

2007-11-10 07:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jellyrocker ♪♫ 2 · 0 0

CORPORAL? are you serious, she is way past the age for a slap on the wrist or worse, sit her down and discuss this, tell her what is expected of her and how you can both work to achieve this. Is she distracted by friends, are boys involved, whatever the problem is you two can work out something calmly. If she needs tutoring get one, speak with the school see if they have noticed changes in her work or behaviour, remember puberty is reeling its ugle head also and she is going thru many changes so there are so many outside factors in this that it will take a calm setting to get to the bottom of it

2007-11-10 06:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by jamieboy1 2 · 2 0

Please do NOT hit her. Why did she fail? Does she need a tutor? Is she falling in with a bad crowd? You need to understand why before knowing how to address the situation. Hitting will just make her more rebellious. If there is something going on in the family, YOU need to address that by communicating with her and making things right. Be a good role model, be more active in what's happening at school, and again find the cause of what happened. Good luck to both of you...this could be a good opening to have a better relationship with your daughter.

2007-11-10 06:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anna P 7 · 2 0

You should be trying to help and encourage her instead of thinking of punishing her. Ever think the poor girl needs support? Talk to her, and just remember not all kids are good at school for one reason or another. By punishing the poor little soul you are more likely to cause more problems by putting stress on her. Think how YOU would feel if you were in her shoes1

2007-11-10 06:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy 5 · 2 1

Did she fail because she do not get answers right? Is she frustrated with school? Do she enjoy school or do she not want to go? Did she just not do the work?

If she is doing the work (and trying at it) and is still failing maybe she needs extra help in those subjects. This will probably be extremly frustraiting for her trying her best and still failing. If she don't enjoy school ask questions find out why she don't. Maybe ther eis a socil problem which would drag her down.

If she is just not trying and not doing the work set out rules (such as no TV, games, computer friends or phone until homework is done-ask to see it if she says it is) encourage her to ask for help, to get involved in school intrests that she enjoys, if she needs extra help in a subject hire someone, talk to her teachers and see what she is like in class.

Why punish because she can not get something in shool. Children (teens included) fail at something because they are not confident in it or they do not grasp a concept. Punishment will only make her feel like a failure when she isn't.

2007-11-10 06:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

Maybe she's trying, dont punish her, kids are forced to go to school. If they dont' understand the work they should never ever be punished just because their parents didn't do well in schoool. and if she is capable. prove it first, then ask this quesiton

2007-11-10 16:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by LikeItorNot 3 · 0 0

Hire a tutor. That's enough punishment.

2007-11-12 15:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0 0

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