Who throws a baby shower?

Question

I'm barely into my second trimester. My friends are all your typical guys. (That's not a slam, I love them all to death, but they're all a "mans man") My Dad and his GF live about three hours away. So does my Mother, and we just got back into speaking terms. My sister lives 8 hours away. My BF's mom is very distant emotionally, and I don't think she's going to be very happy when she finds out her son and I have procreated. I really don't have any girlfriends, as I've always been more of a tomboy. I can't really count on a guy throwing a baby shower, right? So, should I throw my own? I'm not trying to be greedy or anything. But this is my first child, and I'm very excited. I also have very little money to spend on this baby as it is, and I refuse to put things on a credit card, since I just got out of that death trap.

Also, totally unrelated but I have to ask: Instead of an expensive diaper bag couldn't I get a large tote bag? They seem to be relatively the same thing.

Miss Sunshine...I'm not asking for people to "go into hock" for me. I've bought a few very nice second hand things like blankets and whatnot. Did you think I was asking everyone to bring a super expensive gift? I was hoping for some baby clothes, blankets, things like that. My BY and I will buy the expensive things like a crib, stroller ourselves. There's plenty of good quality, gently used stuff on eBay and craigslist.

Answer 1

I have very few girl friends, my husband actually threw mine for me. He invited all of our "couple" friends and some friends of the family and the parents. He made it into more of a party so that the guys would feel ok coming. Good BBQ foods, beer, Game on tv, and gifts... were a side note :) No shower games, none of that stuff. It was fun. My first showers were the girly games & foofoo drinks and all that, it was nice. But the party was awesome. So maybe your boyfriend can do it for you? Good luck!

Answer 2

You could always throw the idea to your guy friends. Or even your dad and his g/f. I know how hard it is to have barely NO money for anything. But if you have a baby registry at Babies R Us then they can give you some cards for a baby shower to send out. But it's not unheard of if you don't really have that many "girlfriends" for you to throw your own babyshower. Just to let everyone know that you are happy about the baby. I know that I'm probably going to be throwing one for myself for this second baby.

Now on your other question. I got a diaperbag from the hospital from Enfamil. It was great and lasted me throughout my son's 1st birthday. I just recently threw it away because I didn't think I'd need it anymore. But I recently went to Babies R Us and got a really nice Peter Rabbit one for $20.00 on sale. Just keep a look out for sales and whatnot from Target, Walmart, and Babies R Us. But if you want to, go ahead and get a really nice backpack actually. Because those are easy to deal with then a silly bag that you also have over your shoulder with your purse, so keep that in mind as well. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Technically it's rude to throw your own baby shower.(just like throwing you own birthday party, or bridal shower) It is really asking for presents, especially since you just admitted that you're not willing to go into hock for your own child...but expect everyone else to.

You never know...his mom just might surprise you by throwing you a shower. BUT at this point....the only thing you can do is HOPE that one of our friend's throw you a shower...or you can wait until after the baby is born and throw a party then. (because you wouldn't be inviting only for gifts but so these people can see baby). Besides....who would you invite if you don't have close friends etc to throw you one to begin with?

Talk to your mom....she can make a 3 hr trip in order to "host" a baby shower...then you wouldn't be in this predicament.

As for the tote bag....that's what I use. It's really roomier than a tradional diaper bag (because there aren't all those stupid compartments taking up room) PLUS I have one that looks better with my wardrobe (and that doesn't make daddy look funny carrying it)...and after I'm done with all my baby's...I can still use it as a regular tote bag.

Answer 4

Try and talk to your parents and sister and since they are not physically there, maybe they could help contribute to the financial part of your baby shower while you throw it for yourself. Just out of curiosity, who would attend since you say you don't have any girlfriends. Do you have other relatives that would come? Go to dollartree, big lots, and 99 cents store for decorations. Edit: You can use any bag you want. I had a black backpack (it was made for diapers and bottles, etc.) that I used for a long time. It was great since it was neutral and my husband could wear it too.

Answer 5

check with your guy friends, they must have sisters and girlfriends who would love to help and I am sure the guys would love to get involved, friends are friends no matter what sex they are, also your mom may want to help too, there are no hard and fast rules to anything in life so you do whatever makes you happy and enjoy, as for the diaper bag, go ahead and use any kind of bag you are happy with, it is all just for carrying baby necessities and can go into any type of bag, all the very best to you, your baby and your man.

Answer 6

I see that you really don't have anyone to throw your party for you so I thinkyou should do it yourself. I ws going to do that but I have my mom and my mother-in-law fighting so I just let them handle it. lol
Your baby shower doesn't just have to be women only you can have both sexes there. Its your baby shower and do it your way.
Congrats!!!

Oh and there are plenty of games he guys can do...lol

Answer 7

given the situation I don't see why you can't throw your own. Talk to your mom first though to make sure she doesn't wan to do it.

My friends and sister in law are throwing mine.