My long-time family friend whom I've lost contact with came into my life about 2 years ago. She totally changed (basically she became a harlot) but I was still willing to give her the chance to be my friend. Well...here's the thing, throughout the course of our 2-yr friendship I've noticed she has too many secrets. She has had an affair w/ a married man in New Jersey (her ex when he was single) and continues to visit him there from time to time. She's a "Christian". Well, a while back she took this guy to NJ w/ her, a new friend. She told me this new friend disgusted her and she wanted nothing to do with him (he liked her). At NJ, she lied to him at the hotel and said she was going to go out by herself w/ a girlfriend here in NJ but you can't come because we're gonna do girly stuff like shopping so would it be ok if you stay here and keep yourself busy. Well, she ended up going out all night with her ex who's married and slept w/ him in the hotel right next....
2007-11-10 05:08:00 · 5 answers · asked by bettyboop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
...right next door to her friend's hotel room. Here's where I come in the picture. I think she's using me as well. We planned to go to Boston this spring...but she said she rather go to NY and NJ because she more familiar with the place. She asked me if I was okay about it. I honestly think she was going to screw me over...just like her friend. What do you think? I know you only have this story to draw your conclusions but i would like to know your opinions. Plus, I've noticed she's really manipulative, she strokes my ego all the time and its getting tiresome, and she never returns my calls. When she wants to hang out she texts me "Hey chica, I miss u soooo much, we have to hang out soon!" She's sooooooo ******* fake. The thing is, she's had conversations w/ me before about how she was screwed over by friends when she was young....then why is she doing it to a long-time family friend. Wow, i'm not mad at her because I could see that all this is created by her insecurties.
2007-11-10 05:12:32 · update #1
She obviously doesn't respect herself...poor thing (I'm not saying that it a pity way). Hmm...the sad part is I'm left w/o any friends. She was the last of them. One by one, they screw me over big time and since I've always been true to myself if I see that it's not worth working out I say sianara! Recently I've went back to God and will be attending a church this Sunday. I'm not in a hurry, I trust that God will provide me w/ better friends. I'm not expecting real but better friends...I'm realistic.
2007-11-10 05:15:10 · update #2
Just get over her...she dosent deserve your friendship
Cheers
2007-11-10 05:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Prince 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need her. She sounds like a compulsive liar and a troublemaker. You're not going to influence her to be a better person right now .. she's having too much fun doing what she does. Back off a bit, don't hang out with her anymore, but leave the door open in case she realizes she needs to change her life someday and needs a supportive friend.
2007-11-10 05:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by boots6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question about finding yourself new friends, and I agree with you on that score.
As for your manipulative user friend, I think you should change your number so she can't contact you anymore, and forget about her.
2007-11-10 05:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just sounds immature still. I don't think she values your friendship[p as much as you do. I would certainly watch my back with her though.
2007-11-10 05:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you still use the word...Friend?
Move on...certainly not a friend in my view.
2007-11-10 05:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Enlightened One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋