I have a female friend that i have feelings for. She is well aware of these feelings. Yesterday she and her boyfriend had a little argument. After the argument she was having a little moan about him to me. I, having seen the argument and having listened to my friend complain. I then used a bad word beginning with 'p' to describe her boyf. My friend took exception to this word and went on to ignore me for the rest of the day(we all work together btw).
Today at work i was threatened by her boyfriend. It turns out she told him all about what i said about him yesterday.
I'm left feeling very hurt because i always felt that i could trust this woman. I admit that i shouldn't have said what i did but it just came out. I can't change it now.
I cannot think of a single good reason why she would tell her boyf this. We don't get on anyway and this only made matters worse.
I'm starting to get the feeling that shes playing us off against each other.
2007-11-10 04:53:33 · 14 answers · asked by David S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've spoken to her since the incident and she told me that by slagging him off i was slagging her off too and that i had insulted her. This i just don't agree with. It wasn't like i was ranting and raving about it i said just 1 word. That is it.
The apologizing point is a good idea but i know that it won't work.She knows me. She'll see straight through it. She already knows how i feel about him so taking it back won't work.
I feel awful because it all feels so stupid. I don't want to lose her as a friend but how ever can i trust her again? How do i know she hasn't told him everything i've ever said to her?
I sent her a text earlier expressing these feelings but she hasn't replied.
It's hard enough having to see her every day as it is(with us being friends) i don't know how i'll cope if we're not friends.
I feel like i need to make it up to her yet i don't feel that i am entirely to blame for the situation. She doesn't seem to see my point with regards to the trust issue.
2007-11-10 05:13:17 · update #1
No
2007-11-10 05:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had to read this several times to get it straight the story is so convoluted. No she shouldn't have betrayed your trust and to act like this in the first place she ain't a mate she's a she devil. You are right she is playing you both off cos she loves to be the centre of attention no matter what the cost to anyone else. It is only right to betray a mate in a life or death situation where there is no alternative ie they ask you to do something while they are dying that you could never possibly carry out like euthanasia
2007-11-10 08:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't right to betray a friend's trust, but in your case, your friend complicated the situation by telling everything to her boyfriend. Afer that, you admit to her that you have made a mistake and you want to apologize her, it's good !!! it was not in your mind to say this word, nobody can change what happened ? I advice you one thing; try to talk to her, ask her the reasons why did she tell everything to her boyf. ! I think the communication is very important to earn someone's trust.
2007-11-10 05:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by corneille 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her that you listened to her moan about him as the friend you are and it was very nasty of her to tell him what you said.Ask her how she would have felt if you had told him everything she had vented to you about him.She knows you don't get along anyway and tell her you vented about him cuz she was and if she really broke your full trust in her and that you don't know if you'll ever tell her anything again beause of it.Maybe she'll see the error of her ways but she still owes you a big apology for betraying your trust.
2007-11-10 05:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Janell T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ugh, she probably doesn't like you back. Don't be sad, just find some new friends. Keep her k.i.t though, just in case. She might want to date you in the future, or maybe you'll find someone you like that likes you back. Just think about it.
2014-12-31 10:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dragon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you should never betray a friend i think shes playing you i wouldent be surprised if there not having a laugh at your expence a true freind would never do this you sound like a nice person go out and make new freinds show them that there not the only people in the world and if they can betray you and or threten you then there not worthy of nowing you
2007-11-10 07:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably told him to make a point that he was being a "p" and said you thought so too to back up her claim. Unfortunately when people get mad at their bf/gf and tell their friends if the friend agrees and says something negative when the friend is no longer mad at the bf/gf those words come back to haunt you! Next time keep your lips zipped and don't say anything!
2007-11-10 04:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never ever betray a friend friendship is the best thing to have in the world. if u aint got a friend m8 uv got nothing
2007-11-10 04:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by derekrodgers233 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its never right to betray a friend. Trust is priceless.
2007-11-10 04:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by alex w 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Both of them are a pair of jerks. Stop seeing her and find other friends.
2007-11-10 05:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO!
It is very rare to get a friends trust once you broken it you would ALWAYS brake it!
2007-11-10 05:46:59 · answer #11 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋