My friend has a few mental problems going on. I stopped being her friend a while ago because of how she acted, but when I found out she tried to commit suicide because of me abandoning her, I felt extremely guilty and became her friend again. What a mistake I made. She plays mind games with me and tells me that people want to kill me and she tries to bring my confidence down. She always yells at me when I smile and gets extremely jealous when I talk to people. I have lost a lot of friends because of this one person. I really miss my old friends, the ones that made me feel good, but it's just too hard of a situation to get out of. I don't know if they ever want to talk to me after what happend. Everyone knows this girl is weird and now I'm afraid I'm stuck with her. I feel so stupid. I had soo much and I wasted it trying to help out a "so called friend". Can someone help?
2007-11-10
04:38:00
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The biggest problem I'm having with her is that I don't want to be responsible for her death. I really don't want to be her friend, but I'm too scared to stop being her friend because she'll try to kill herself again. It's stressing me out.
2007-11-10
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She's playing you the guilt trip. Remember, you may not control you situation but your life's a different story. Your crazed aquaintance is making you depressed, unhappy. You want out too right?
Firstly, prepare to be the Devil's advocate. AND HIT HER WHERE IT HURTS. I've heard of one man who had the same situation. His teacher and him were having a relationship. And she was getting clingy.
She didn't let him have a life anymore. It was all about her. How that guy solved his problem though, was- well, the point was, he lost the girlfriend.
His girlfriend was psycho too. SHE CUT HER WRISTS just because he suggested 'some time alone'.
Find out your aquaintance's weakness. She is no longer your friend but an obstacle you must overcome. For example, she hates it when you're with different people right? Does she go in a rage?
Let her see you talk with others again. When she goes nuts, call the cops, get a restraining order, ANYTHING. If you need to snitch on her by speaking to her parents, do so. That's how that guy who had a ***** girlfriend solved his problems.
All's fair in WAR.
2007-11-10 04:49:14
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answered by hollynguyen11 2
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I've seen this kind of people, and a mental illness is definitely at work, but the sad thing is that she's a manipulator. She will do anything or say anything to keep control of the people around her.
Tell her you're breaking up. Give her any excuse in the world. Don't take her calls, don't receive her e-mails, DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR HER, and ignore attempts at suicide. She has the right to feel any way she wants, and you have the right to hang with the people you actually enjoy. Go back to your friends and tell her good bye.
I know this situation because my son is in one very similar. Tell someone this, tell someone that, you're my boyfriend, but I'm still in love with so-and-so, I'll go to homecomeing with you, no, I'd better go with him. Lies, sex, she manipulates anyone in her sphere of influence.
The last thing I have to tell you is that this lady may be psychotic and dangerous. You may want to change schools, or you may want to move someplace where she's not likely to find you. If she is obsessed with you, she's going to try to find you.
TX Mom
2007-11-10 04:54:55
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answered by TX Mom 7
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Look up the suicide hot lines on search. I lost my husband to suicide and it is the worst feeling anyone good ever go through, nothing like a natural death. This girl needs some real help. Has she got parents that you could talk to and get her into therapy pr something. She sounds like she may be able to commit anything, even be dangerous. Sounds like sycophantic, bipolar, depression, what ever more. There are also groups on line to help those prevent suicide. If she is school, talk to the school counselor, her parents definitely need to be aware, and she definitely need some help!!=====
2007-11-10 05:00:58
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answered by lana s 7
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I had a buddy like this once, me and her had sex and that i had no theory she did not favor to. We were given closer and that i began to determine it out, i ended attempting to do something inclusive of her up till she requested why. I informed her I knew she did not favor to and she or he admitted it after that something clicked, like she realised she ought to say no and had extra administration over it. Now were relationship and she or he's tremendous with having sex now. notwithstanding I nonetheless enable her opt for at the same time as. Your buddy will ultimately have her second.
2016-10-23 23:43:42
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answered by ? 4
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first of all, does she have a mental illness, or is she just a little off her rocker?
If she has a life long mental illness, or an un-curable mental illness, then there's nothing you can really do for her. I would she to just be there for her, but that doesn't seem to be working.
you have to do what's right for yourself too you know, not just for her
best of luck!
2007-11-10 04:45:40
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answered by ♫♪QueTheMusic♪♫ 2
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you just have to tell this 'weird' girl whats up, if she tries to kill herself over losing your friendship its not your fault but a choice she makes to blame you. she needs help and you might be the only one that helps her get that help she needs. try and help get get that if she doesnt want it tell her you cant be friends with her.
2007-11-10 04:42:06
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answered by Anonymous
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you are the only one who can help you. this person is not a friend, they are a user, and you are their enabler. you have to break it off. if they really were going to kill themselves then there is nothing you could do to stop them anyway. it was a ruse to get your attention. if they try to kill themselves then they will probably get the help they need to get better. professional help, from a doctor.
2007-11-10 04:45:03
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answered by Scott M 5
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Sounds like she has bigger problems than you can handle. Find her help.
2007-11-10 04:41:34
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answered by Anonymous
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